The thought of having sex on my period has grossed me out for as long as I can remember.
When it's that time of the month for me, I try to completely forget that my uterus is literally shedding its lining.
Being grossed out by that thought, you can imagine how weird it was for me to finally bite the bullet and have sex while menstruating for the first time ever.
Now, period sex was definitely a bit different from regular sex, but it also wasn't as disgusting as I imagined it would be.
Trust me, I'll take sex with a little mess over lying alongside a guy in bed horny, moody and bleeding, incapable of doing the dirty because my Aunt Flo came to visit.
After trying it, it's safe to say I'm more open to it and won't write sex off while I'm on my period (that is, if the guy is also down).
Here are five things I learned from popping my period sex cherry:
1. I was self-conscious of my bleeding, but he didn't GAF.
I learned that if a guy is in your bed and you tell him you're on your period, chances are, he still won't say no to you (gotta love the male libido).
You already have him under your spell, a little blood won't change that.
In my personal experience, I was the one who was hesitant to get things going, despite wanting to have sex really badly. But once he told me he was OK with it, I was OK with it.
And, once my insecurities were at bay, I was able to ease up both emotionally and physically, which made the experience worth remembering.
So, if you know you can relax during period sex, go for it.
2. There will be blood.
... And, potentially, lots of it, depending on where you are in your cycle.
When it came to my bloody bedroom experience, let's just say it wasn't a scene out of a horror movie, but it also involved more than just a few drops here and there.
What was interesting, though, was I couldn't feel it coming out of me during sex, even though I definitely thought I would.
If you're grossed out by seeing crimson just hanging out there in the open (like I am), turn off or dim the lights. The dark will help you relax and won't kill the mood. But it will kill your period-related insecurities.
Out of sight, out of mind, right?
3. Period sex doesn't feel any different than regular sex.
No, it doesn't hurt. Actually, it might even feel better than regular sex.
It turns out all that blood you hate so much serves as a nice, natural lubricant, which solves that whole out-of-lube-or-doesn't-have-any problem. (I don't know about you, but at any given time, I don't always have lube in my apartment.)
So unless you're doubled over in pain (in which case, I recommend Midol and the fetal position), go for a quickie to feel relief and pleasure — all at the same time. Yay!
4. He can still go down on you.
This option is entirely up to you. If he's keen on eating you out, you don't have to say no if you want to indulge (and he's also a keeper if he offers, IMO). Just tell him to focus on your clitoris (the clit is where it's at, anyway).
Or, have him use a vibrator on you. That way, there's no possibility of him coming back up from your nether-regions looking like Rihanna in "Bitch Better Have My Money."
Having a guy go down on you can also work if you're nearing the end of your period. You know, on the days when you're barely even spotting, but you're still not sure if it's done.
5. The experience isn't as gross when there's a condom involved.
Ask your dude to slap a rubber on that D (which you should be doing, REGARDLESS).
Condoms are not only one of the safest, most practical way to prevent STDs and pregnancy, but they also happen to be great diffusers when it comes to period blood.
And, fun fact: Because your cervix is more open while you're menstruating, you're more prone to catch infections during this time.
This is why condoms are a must if you don't know the status of your partner's sexual health.
See? Your period doesn't have to mean abstaining from sex, especially if the moment is right. You can ride that D like there's no tomorrow. But mayyyybe just put a towel underneath you so you don't mess up your Egyptian cottons. That shit is expensive.