The Red Flags Of A Side Chick

by Ashley Fern

At one point in your life, you have been a part of some sort of relationship, but today we’re going to talk about side chicks. You know, the people who you keep around at your convenience, but would never go as far as saying that they are your significant other. Listen up ladies; if you start a relationship being the other woman, you will never be the only woman.

There are many red flags you can look for if you are starting to worry your sidepiece is trying to be more. Sober daytime hangouts are reserved for relationships, not booty calls. In front of your group of friends, you appear to have a platonic relationship, but when you’re alone together it is a completely different scenario.

After spending the night together, it is a warning sign if this person starts to linger for a little too long. They try to get you to take them to breakfast, lunch, anything that should only be done with a real partner.

“Roses are red, violets are blue. If he said he’s busy tonight, the side chick is you.”

Honestly when you think about it, this happens a lot more with women than it does with men, since women tend to be more emotional. However, this is not true for all women. Do not stalk them on social media, do not keep tabs on their whereabouts; just go out and live your life and relish in the fact that if you want to have sex at any given moment, this person is only a text away.

The worst thing is when sidepieces do not realize they are sidepieces. Real women get a call before bed, side chicks get a text (if that). Girlfriends get the “Hey babe, what’s up?” whereas the girl on the side gets a “Yo where you at?” You know you’re the side chick when you don’t get a good morning or goodnight text, the only thing you’re getting is a “sorry I fell asleep last night.”

“The O.T.H.E.R. woman: an Overplayed Toy He Eventually Releases”

A guy isn’t cheating with you because you are so good at being the other girl; he's cheating with you because you aren’t good enough to be the REAL girl. Sidepieces have an expiration date and by trying to push a future, you are just prolonging the inevitable. Don’t be a side chick catching main bitch emotions. Accept the role you have in your man’s life and take it for what it’s worth. Once you realize this, you can benefit as much as he does from this arrangement.

If your sidepiece is trying to meet your family, you better run for the hills. Meeting a person’s parents is an extremely personal encounter and although you may be engaging in personal conduct, that is as far as it is going to go. The fewer people who know about your slam piece, the better. You do not get to experience holidays with this person, no Christmas celebrations, no Thanksgiving with the family and especially no Valentine’s Day. Remember to never show up unannounced, ever, and never drop the L word!

Some women are innately twisted and get some sick sense of pleasure out of hooking up with another girl’s man. They like doing something dangerous and thrilling. Girls with low self-esteem are usually the type to engage in this sort of behavior because it gives them a confidence boost since someone else's man is chasing after them.

Many women put up with this type of a relationship for many reasons and as time goes on, we see this more and more in society. People’s busy schedules do not allow for the complete investment that a relationship demands. By engaging in this type of arrangement, sex and intimacy are at your convenience. You get to reap all the benefits of an actual relationship, but without all of the drama and bullsh*t.

Too many women complain about being the side chick, but if you are really that bothered by it, why are you putting up with it? If you accept less than you want, you are only setting yourself up for disappointment. They allow men to play this game because they think it will get them a permanent spot in their lives, but this could not be further from the truth.

Men realize what you are willing to put up with and use it to the best of their advantage. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?