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After Sex, Men Feel The Same Emotions Women Do

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Women have always been labeled as the clingy, emotionally dependent ones in relationships, but a new scientific study is proving they're not the only gender who "feels" things after sex.

It seems men are just as prone to experiencing that immediate post-sex depression as women are.

Despite the immense pleasure that usually comes with an explosive orgasm, it's not uncommon for people to feel a wave of sadness soon after, even if there was nothing bad to be said about the sexual encounter, according to Medical Daily.

Researchers at Queensland University of Technology in Australia have concluded that low feeling post-sex is referred to as post-coital dysphoria (PCD). The emotional blast can go on for five minutes or two hours, depending on the person, and it's not limited to women.

“Everyone assumes what happens in the bedroom is normal but there are a wide range of responses in the period of time immediately following consensual sexual activity, known as the resolution phase,” Robert Schweitzer, study author and a professor at QUT, said in a statement.

Despite past research showing that half of women have displayed signs of PCD in their life at least once (with some repeat offenders), there's evidence that supports men experiencing PCD as well. However, researchers have yet to prove what exactly causes it.

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Relationship expert April Masini gave her input as to why post-sex blues occur, stating that those sad feelings may arise if you think your relationship may only be a sexual one.

"Many times people (usually women) try to leverage sex into love. They get caught up in the whirlwind and in the morning, realize there's no 'I love you,' or 'I have to see you tonight,' uttered," she told Medical Daily.

On the other hand, sexual psychophysiologist Nicole Prause thinks low testosterone levels and a total lack of orgasm can cause you to feel PCD after sex.

"Communication after sex is often negative," she told Medical Daily.

A previous study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships supports Prause's theory.

Researchers found high testosterone levels resulted in more negative conversations after sex. Though, if an orgasm occurred during sex, the communication tended to be less negative.

While there's still no definite answer as to what causes PCD, Schweitzer believes there's a connection to people experiencing a "loss of self."

"There may be a group of people who find that this 'loss of self' sets off a response of dysphoria [a general state of unease], particularly when the individual feels a vulnerable sense of self, which may result from a number of developmental issues," he said to Boston's NPR News Station, WBUR.

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Overall, Masini believes, during those post-sex blues, people shouldn't think too much into their partner's actions because everyone reacts differently.

"Sometimes, a partner will be thinking about marrying you, but you misread this because you're assuming that the absence of affection after the act means an absence of feelings for the relationship," she said.

Making assumptions is a terrible thing, whether inside or outside the bedroom.

So take what you're feeling during PCD with a grain of salt, and don't let it cloud your judgment when it comes to your relationship.

Citations: Men Get The Post-Sex Blues, Too: The Possible Causes Of Post-Coital Dysphoria (Medical Daily)