There are about a million articles about what you should be doing with your body during sex, but what noises should you be making?
I mean, how can you tell if you sound like a sexy porn star fantasy or more like a weird, annoying freak who doesn't know how to shut up?
If you're curious about the dirty talk men want to hear during sex, you've come to the right place. Do you enjoy hearing dirty talk? Are your sexual partners into your dirty talk? OK, OK, I'll stop freaking you out. Truthfully, if you're with the right person, whatever you're saying will be totally fine. And if you're concerned about it, you should talk about it with your partner. It might feel awkward at first, but communicating your preferences openly and honestly can make for a great time in the bedroom.
In a recent Reddit AskMen thread, real men and male-identifying people got super open about the kind of dirty talk they're hoping to hear in the bedroom. TBH, your partner might not be into this stuff. But, hey, take it as some inspiration.
First and foremost, just be into it.
genuine enthusiasm — /u/Satherton
Genuine expressions of pleasure and enjoyment. — /u/Coidzor
Moaning and enthusiasm. — /u/Klx3908
Seductively moan the winning lottery numbers.
The winning numbers to the next day's lottery. Moaned out, slowly. — /u/Big_Red_Stapler
Ask him to Finish inside of you.
I want her to look back over her shoulder at me, red-faced and sweating, and say, "Please cum inside me..." Nothing frees the beast for me like that. — /u/youreallmeatanyway
Don't be silent.
Anything is good whether it's dirty talk or just natural sounds like moaning. Being completely quiet gets me out of the mood so fast. — /u/Knights_of_the_Night
Anything but silence — /u/Atheist101
That is, unless tHINGS eSCALATE.
Something. Words preferrably. But moans, groans, and gasps are ok too. Silence is only preferable if I've gagged you. — /u/Casus125
Don't humor me or fake your enjoyment... unless you're legitimately convincing about it, in which case yeah I might enjoy it. — /u/yetanotheraccountolo
Call thEM by THEIR name.
My name. Not my username though. That would be the worst. — /u/yet_yet_another_guy
advice of what to do and or keep doing — /u/peytoneli
The first several times, instructions. Like a hot to cold scale. Am I getting warmer? — /u/whoshereforthemoney
Call tHEM "Daddy."
Anything Daddy or Papi related. Incoherent moaning/screaming is always great as well. — /u/gooch_taster
Make some squishy sounds?
Nobody's mentioned sloppy squishy wet sounds? And genuine enthusiasm, of course — /u/puntifex
Moaning and typical dirty talk, e.g. 'f*ck me,' 'I want you inside me,' etc. I thought that stuff was stupid after only ever seeing it in porn, but after experiencing it, it was an insane turn-on. Also, wet and squishy sounds are another turn-on. — /u/zombies995
Tell Them you paid off Their student loans.
whispers seductively 'i paid off your student loans' — /u/bowmanc
If you, unfortunately, have not had the chance to pay off their student loans, I wouldn't worry too much. At the end of the day, it doesn't seem to matter exactly what you say, as long as the sex you're having is consensual and pleasurable for both of you.
This post was originally published on Jan. 24 2017. It was updated on Aug. 7 2019.