Let's all be very honest with ourselves: we as men are currently living in the age of the asshole. Not the usual interpretation of an asshole, though, as in the kind nobody wants to be around because he is so insulting. This is the new asshole, the guy who girls say they hate when they really find him quite attractive.
Although this new asshole is pompous, arrogant and well aware that he is the greatest thing to happen to planet Earth since the invention of Nutella, what is most evident in terms of his characteristics is the fact that he is a man of power, drive and assertiveness, and these are qualities everyone find appealing.
First off, for a man to make it in this world he must be able to channel his inner asshole many times in his life. Men should be confident, in control of whatever situation they are in as well as always looking for way to better themselves and increase their status as an alpha male. In order for us to feel that we are fully utilizing the gift that has been given to us in being a man, we must constantly be observing and flaunting our own traits that can and should be envied by anyone in our presence.
If a man wants to make the most out of life, he must understand that his concerns are his responsibility and his alone and no one else is going to tell him how great he is or make him feel deserving of success but himself. So, what do you expect ladies? It's also beyond evident that nice guys do in fact finish last, and why the hell would we want to do that?
Many people through out time have questioned the alpha male and have asked if the asshole attitude is really good for society. We of course say it is good because there needs to be a balance of power. If everyone was just nice to each other and always smiling there would be no such a thing as competition.
But the question remains as to why the alpha male has to himself like such an asshole to gain the power and competitive drive that he believes are the only keys to success. What's the reasoning behind it, the method to his madness? Here are some explanations as to why the dark side is more rewarding to the average man.
The girl that left him so bitter
The most typical reason behind a man's asshole ways is the girl that left him a bit too bitter. This is when our young asshole who didn't even know he could be an asshole found himself too vulnerable and naive when he gave himself to a girl he believed would be his forever.
Of course this is not the way it worked out, and from the day he had lost what he believed was rightfully his, this soon to be asshole's point of view was forever distorted. He was either cheated on or abandoned when he still had strong feelings for her, giving the man the impression that if he lets someone else control how happy he is, he will surely be disappointed.
After realizing that being nice got him no where, leaving him still feeling more vulnerable than he has ever felt, he realizes putting someone else's opinion before his own is what got him fucked over. Thus, the bad boy is born. Never again will a girl be treated or viewed like a queen in this man's eyes again. Besides, now he gets to become someone he always wanted to become but never knew he would unless something pissed him to such an incredible level.
After studying assholes for a very long time and observing their daily routines, one commonality I noticed between the many assholes I know is that they are very insecure. They battle with insecurity with their whole life because of things that have maybe happened in their childhood or later on in high school or college. Whatever the case may be, the asshole always feels the need to have attention and be the most listened to, talked about and carefully observed person in the room.
Their past has taught them that being passive and letting other people steal the spotlight from them only left them jealous and irrelevant. But when they are loud, in your face, confident and standing taller then everyone else in the room their ego is fed and their insecurity goes away. If you ever watch an asshole closely, you will understand how important it is to for them to become the center of attention because if they are not, they will act like they are competing with whoever is at the moment.
"Me against the world" attitude
The existence of a level of anger is evident in every asshole, they just show it at different times. They have come to learn throughout all the ups and downs in life that it is a cold, dog eat dog world out there. Nothing that they ever accomplished has ever been explained or instructed to them by a peer because everyone wants the same success they do. There once was a time when they weren't aware that this was indeed the case, and they let others get ahead while they were depending on someone else or feeling alone without a helping hand.
This is why men are competitive, cut throat and well versed in the theory that life is a game that only the smartest, most cunning and self-absorbed asshole can win. All of the anger they have about making fools of themselves by trusting others long ago drives to them to work harder and evolve while others are looking for help from someone else. They remember what it felt like to be left behind, and the will to prove to themselves why they will never feel like that again always puts the asshole ahead of the game.
Darwin's Theory of Survival
Charles Darwin popularized and found validity in the theory that the strong will survive while the weak will eventually become a needless race. The asshole is the strong willed force in society who understands that those who are envied benefit more than those who are loved or appreciated. The asshole is the way he is because he knows how people treat someone who is too nice.
The nice person doesn't see people getting away with things and benefiting on his own behalf. If he assumes power and uses others to his own advantage, however, people will know not to take him lightly and then he will be the only thing standing in front of his own success.
Richie O'Flaherty | Elite.