9 Relationship Red Flags That Prove Your Guy Is Far From Boyfriend Material
The dating world today can be hard to navigate.
We live in a culture of hookups and where the concept of boyfriend and girlfriend seems obsolete.
At times, it can be difficult to manage and even harder to understand.
However, one thing that has stayed the same throughout decades of romantic interactions is the red flag.
The dreaded red flag, as Urban Dictionary defines it, is "a sign or warning of impending danger, disaster, or doom."
There are always red flags at the beginning of any relationship.
Some are as harmless as “He takes way too many selfies,” and others are as dangerous as “He forces me to call him daddy."
I have compiled my list of top red flags that qualify as deal breakers, which call for the end of a relationship all together.
As I am a woman who has only dated guys, I’m really only qualified to give out a list of red flags for men.
Here are nine red flags that should indicate you should break up with your boyfriend:
1. He’s a dick to his parents.
Not having a great relationship with your family is totally okay, and it's frankly way more common than people think.
But, a guy who is openly mean as hell to his family is one we should all probably stay far away from.
My sister used to date a guy who threw a Coke on his mom because she was “being a bitch."
Needless to say, she walked away right then and there.
Because if that doesn’t scream, "I degrade women," I don’t know what does.
2. He makes you pay for everything.
This is obviously awful, and I can confidently say it's a red flag for any person, man or woman.
Splitting the bill is awesome, and even paying for a few dates yourself because you want to treat is even cuter.
But, being coerced into buying every breakfast, lunch, dinner and drink you share together is honestly a nightmare.
Nothing is more unattractive, selfish and careless than a person who perpetually “forgets" his wallet.
3. He only calls or texts you when he’s drunk.
Now, this happens way too often in the world of casual hookups, and it’s a difficult one to decode.
If you just want to hook up when you're drunk, and he wants the same, then more power to you both.
However, if you have real feelings for this person, and he only wants you around when you're drunk and naked, this is a huge deal breaker.
Frankly, this person doesn't see your value beyond your sexuality.
Trust me, you have more value than someone who just services a guy.
4. He’s a liar.
This is huge.
Guy or girl, if you catch your partner in a lie more than once, there is no real reason to keep the relationship going.
Someone who is a liar is probably a consistent and pathological liar.
It’s just one of those moral codes you either live by or you don’t.
How can you trust anything someone says if the foundation you started on was all bullsh*t?
5. He doesn’t care about your sexual needs at all.
If a guy has no desire to fulfill your needs in the bedroom, it's a huge problem.
Above everything else, it’s just plain selfish.
Sex is made for two people to both participate in and enjoy.
Sex for one person is called masturbation.
If your guy is the only one being satisfied by your intercourse, you need to subtract yourself from the equation and leave him to his hand.
6. He still hangs out with his ex.
If he is still “best friends” with his ex while trying to pursue a relationship with you, you're getting duped.
The only reason two exes are continuing contact is because either one or both of them sees a possibility of getting back together.
Don’t be his extracurricular activity.
You deserve to be the main act.
7. He puts you down.
This is never, ever okay.
No type of relationship should ever leave you feeling bad about yourself.
The people you surround yourself with should lift you up and make you feel your best.
Anything less is something you just don’t need in your life.
8. He never follows through with what he says he’s going to do.
I’ve seen this a million times.
This guy will tell you, “I’ll take you out,” or “I’ll introduce you to my friends.”
Yet every time you hang out, it’s alone in bed together.
Stay away from the guy who's always promising something he never ends up delivering.
This ties into the same concept of only calling you at night.
Listen to his actions, not his empty promises.
If it’s been weeks or months and he hasn’t delivered on any of these things, then he never will.
9. You have a bad gut feeling.
This is so important.
We have gut feelings for a reason.
They mean something, and a lot of times, we get ourselves into bad situations by ignoring them.
If you’re dating a guy and it just “doesn’t feel right," odds are, it isn’t.
Listen to yourself, and trust your gut.
It’s really just your subconscious trying to protect you.