3 Reasons You Shouldn't Believe The Stereotype That Musicians Don't Make Good Lovers


I grew up in a very musical family. My mom's got the voice of an angel and my dad has played guitar in multiple bands throughout my upbringing. In fact, most of my favorite memories consist of going out to bars and concert venues with my mother and sister to watch my dad's sets.

We would always get really close to the stage and cheer him on, whether he was playing at a local bar or on stage at a concert venue.

The pride that radiated from my mom's face was apparent as she watched the love of her life rock out, and my little sister and I would yell his name in the crowd after every guitar solo.

My mom has been going to watch my dad play since they started dating as teenagers in the 80s. They were completely in love -- the kind of love that I can only hope to find someday. She would go to as many shows as she could, and yell his name from the audience as he shredded on the electric guitar.

Fast-forward a few years: Marriage was in the cards. My artsy mother married the musician in town, with the "bright blue eyes and ripped up jeans," as she once described him, and they both couldn't be happier.

Fast-forward even further, and my sister and I were born. We were two girls, being raised in a family rich with music, creativity and love. As we grew up, we found our niches.

My sister ventured down an avenue of jazz and brass music, and I found a passion in playing guitar, a skill that my dad began to teach me at a young age.

Now, I'm 22 and a songwriter who writes mainly about love and lust: two topics of interest to almost anyone in his or her 20s who is playing the dating game.

Being a young musician, I've noticed musicians nowadays don't exactly get the best reps when it comes to the realm of dating, which blows my mind because of the loving and musical environment I was brought up in.

Now, musicians are often stereotyped as flaky, non-committed wonderers who have nothing in mind but their music career and sex.

This is a completely unrealistic assumption, and people need to stop connecting an individual's personality to the instrument he or she plays. Let's face it: A jerk is a jerk, whether he or she is holding a guitar or not.

Just the other day, I was talking to my friends about a date I was getting ready for. When I told them that I was seeing a musician, they rolled their eyes and automatically assumed it wasn't going to work out.

Seeing that reaction, I could only think a few things: Do people automatically think that about me, too? What about all other musicians? Are we all getting this black cloud above our heads and a warning sign over our faces before seeing someone new?

This stereotypical notion that all musicians will break your heart and move on without a second thought needs to be proven wrong. Musicians can be some of the most inspiring, passionate, loving and adventurous people out there.

Everyone is different, and yes, you will run into undesirable people who may happen to play music. Even so, there are plenty of reasons why you should date a musician, and love every second of it. Why, you ask?

1) We're always inspired

Give us a date, drink or kiss, and it'll inspire us to no end. You will probably be the subject of the next song we stay up until 3 am writing.

We feel things so deeply and those feelings are filtered through passionate song lyrics and melodies. To date a musician is to date someone who will document every step of your relationship through music: the good, the bad and yes, the ugly. We take the world and mold it into a song.

Dating a musician is to truly be involved with everlasting and documented love.

2) We're driven and goal-oriented

Musicians are some of the most dedicated and driven people on the face of the planet because they need to make a living off of their own creations.

Whether they are trying to become the next pop sensation or simply trying to sell some songs to put food on the table, musicians will find a way to achieve their goals.

They have one-track minds, and a lot of the time, their minds are on the track to either stardom or having the choice to spend their lives playing and writing songs.

Our goal is to make a living off of creating music, and we'll do anything to achieve it. Therefore, by dating a musician, you will have a companion that is always trying to better him or herself instead of settling for a job that is easy or convenient. We like a challenge.

3) We're dreamers

Although some of our aspirations may come across as somewhat unrealistic, we are dreamers and have a picture in our minds of how we want our lives to be.

Sure, it's not a solid picture, but the dreams we have to succeed in our musical field are immeasurable. Musicians provide a light at the end of the tunnel.

Dating a musician is almost like having an inhuman companion that is always there to catch you when you fall. Having these goals and dreams in your significant other will always add a splash of color and hope to the lives you pursue together.

Some of the dreams we musicians have can seem a little frightening, and if you don't have the support you need from the ones you love, then they can be tough. But like they say, if your dreams don't scare you, they aren't big enough.

So there you have it: Musicians aren't that bad after all. They aren't out to destroy your emotions, hit the road and never look back; they feel deeper than most and can bring a relationship to another level of passion, dreaming and achieving. Go ask a musician out on a date and find out for yourself.

I promise, you won't regret it.

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