Why Men Who Have Been Single The Longest Make The Best BFs, As Told By A Guy
As some of you already know, I've been in the single category for a while… my entire life actually.
With that out in the open, I'm about to make a bold statement: I'm a catch. Yes, you heard right. Even though no woman has signed up for this boat ride yet, I am a bonafide stud, and a certified G… and you can't teach that!
That's a wrestling quote, and now that I think about it, that might be one of the reasons why I'm still single… but that's a conversation for another time.
I know most women see it as a red flag when a guy has been single for a long time, but it doesn't necessarily have to be that way.
And it's not just me; there are many perpetually single guys who would make great companions, here are just a few reasons why.
Yes, the perpetually single man is a pillar of strength – rejection tends to do that to a person. As my mother always told me, “it Builds character.”
That's why a guy who has been single for a while can help his lady love out when she's feeling browbeaten by the world. He can authentically empathize with her in a non-condescending or judgmental way.
He's literally the perfect shoulder to lean or cry on.
Fewer bad habits
When I say bad habits, I mean bad relationship habits.
Unfortunately, as humans, bad habits fall upon us all, but a guy who's been single a long time is sort of like a new phone. It runs smooth as silk and doesn't have a lot of clutter.
Now, once you download some of your favorite apps (baggage) things could begin to get murky… but at least it didn't start that way.
I can personally tell you that I am a fantastic listener.
I may not remember what I had for dinner last night or my birthday half the time, but if you confide something in me, I remember.
Guys who have been single for a while have minds like steel traps. The reason? We often spend so much time in the recesses of our own minds, it's refreshing to hear someone else yammer on about their themselves.
So, talk away ladies.
Knows how to have a good time
As you get older and more of your friends get into relationships, you start to spend more time alone.
More alone time means you find some pretty cool ways to entertain yourself.
The guy who's been single for a while knows how to let loose. He's spontaneous and always looking for a new adventure. We don't the luxury of having someone else to amuse us so we look within.
Ladies, this could be to your benefit.
Again, this goes with having a lot of time with ourselves.
A guy who's been single a long time has had some time to work on himself. Whether he's working on his music, writing, education or even his body – that's right ladies – wink, wink. (Sadly, that's not me.)
A guy who's been single for a while is putting in that work. He's bettering himself and a better person equals a better boyfriend.
A guy who's been single a while most likely has a romantic interior.
A romantic interior is not to be confused with a romantic exterior. Unfortunately, when a guy has been single a long time, he tends to have some emotional boo-boos on his feelings, but once you get past that, you will see the tender side that has had time to blossom.
He's a bench player on a sports team. He wants to get in the game, and he dreams about getting in the game. He imagines what he would do when coach tells him he's coming in -- what moves he'll make, what plays he'd run.
He's always wanted to experience romance so when he gets his shot, you can guarantee he comes to play.
Those are just some of the reasons why the perpetually single man would make a great boyfriend. So, ladies, next time you have trepidations about going out with a man who's been single for a while, don't.
He might surprise you… in a good way.