Why Girls Should Make The First Move, As Told By A Guy


As men, we are used to the burden of making the first move. It is never fully comfortable for us, but we do get better at it over time. My question is, have you ladies ever contemplated making the first move? Moreover, have you actually gone through with it?

I am sure some of you out there have done this, and others have only hoped inside that the hunk of a man you noticed would come up to you, but he failed to do so.

Now, there could be many reasons why you lack the initiative and ambition. Maybe you stick to the old-fashioned route; maybe you are scared of rejection; maybe you simply do not know how to approach a man.

Welcome to a man's world. We, too, hate rejection and embarrassment, and some of us have no clue how to approach women. As a man, I can tell you that we do not mind a woman approaching us.

In fact, my ex approached me on a dance floor; she walked right up to me and asked to dance. I was a little taken back because it is not the norm; however, her confidence impressed me and I was attracted from the get-go.

A woman who approaches a man stands out, and we can determine a few things about her. Her bold, no-holds-barred approach tells us that she's confident, spontaneous, brave, outgoing, direct and thinks outside the box.

All of the above are attractive qualities in a woman; they make you appear humble and real. You should never hinder your chances and opportunities by thinking you are too good to approach a man or assume that he knows you are attracted to him.

Men like to think they can tell if a girl is attracted to them, but there are always cases where we never get the hint or the other person is too shy to make it noticeable.

Men definitely appreciate it when a woman makes the first advance, and I don't know one guy who has ever complained or made a girl feel bad about approaching him. That brings me to the next area of signs and ways to help zero in on your target.

If you do not want to immediately make a cold approach, send him a few signs to gauge his reaction. These could be done by simple flirty looks and smiles, or by complimenting him on something.

If you are with friends or guys, you are going to have to work harder because he might think one of them is your boyfriend or one of them is into you.

Also, if it's more comfortable, wait until his friends are gone to approach or do something; we guys know the pressure of approaching a group, and it sucks.

Being forward and going after what you want in life is essential to success in any realm; it puts everything out on the table and does not beat around the bush, therefore, giving you more opportunities.

If you are shy, just go for it, and I promise it won't be as bad as you're imagining. Even if the guy is not attracted to you, chances are he will be respectful back.

My uncle told me a great piece of advice back in the day: "The worst that can happen is she says no." In the end, you will learn to become more confident and not be so shy about approaching men and people in general.

This is essential if you wish to engage in conversation or get to know someone better. Just try it out; you will learn more about yourself than you ever thought.

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