Every woman who is single in the 21st century is faced with the struggle of trying to find a suitable man to date. Unfortunately, trying to decipher who will be genuine and who just pretends to be is a daunting task.
At some point or another, most girls have fallen for guys they thought were perfect, only to realize these guys were only perfect at one thing: telling girls what they wanted to hear, but never acting on it.
The truth is, there are two types of men in this world: the hunters and the gatherers. And, the sooner you can figure out which one a guy is, the better off your dating life will be.
Here are the top 10 differences between a hunter and a gatherer:
1. Verbal Communication
The hunter is a man whose words are always backed by intent and purpose.
The gatherer is a man who always says the right thing, but his words are devoid of meaning.
The hunter pursues a woman who interests him without the need for games. He understands dating is a two-way street.
The gatherer gives a little of himself to a woman, but expects a lot in return. He wants to be a woman's whole world, but only wants her to be a slice of his.
The hunter is confident.
The gatherer is driven by insecurity.
The hunter is honest about his feelings with a woman and acts on them without the fear of rejection.
The gatherer cloaks his true feelings for a woman in indifference.
5. The Power Struggle
The hunter is assertive. He understands an equal amount of effort is required from both the man and the woman for a relationship to flourish.
The gatherer would rather lose a woman than risk not having “the upper hand” in a relationship.
The hunter knows who he is and doesn’t seek superficial attention from outside sources.
The gatherer craves validation from everyone, even if that means it is at the expense of your feelings.
The hunter is honest with you, even if it's something you don't want to hear.
The gatherer would rather lie than risk coming across as a bad guy.
8. External Influence
The hunter stands on his own two feet, and friends or acquaintances don't easily sway him.
The gatherer allows the influence of others to sway his decisions.
The hunter defends you. He would never let anyone speak ill of you in public or private. When he finds a woman he loves, he protects her.
The gatherer is more likely to allow your name to be brought up in a negative context. After all, it's all about fitting in.
The hunter physically works toward creating a future with you, not just with his words, but also through his actions. He understands his strength is in his actions, not words. He wouldn’t risk losing you over being afraid to act on something he feels.
The gatherer works on creating a future with you through his words only. He says things to you he doesn’t fulfill, hoping it will be enough to bind you to him with the promise of what could be.
In this context, whether a man is a hunter or a gatherer has nothing to do with his physical being and everything to do with his internal attributes.
When you meet a hunter, you will instantly notice how much easier it is to date him. Living in this hook-up culture, it can be terrifying to put yourself out there for fear of getting hurt again.
But, once you date a hunter, it will suddenly seem effortless. There won’t be games, egos or false promises. Instead, there will be honesty, respect and mutual admiration.
Although a hunter may be tough to find, he's a keeper once he enters your life.