We've all heard it time and time again: “Mamma always said, life is like a box of chocolates...”
Ever think to apply this famous quote to relationships, as well? I mean, obviously it can’t be taken too literally, as no man could meet the same standards of a fine piece of chocolate.
Think of your past relationships, or even of just type of guy you tend to feel attracted to. In a relationship, I’d like to compare these fine fellows to traditional milk chocolate. Go back to a time when you received a big box of tasty chocolates and you first opened it up. Hmm, decisions, decisions.
Think of these options as different types of men: the successful businessman looking mighty dapper in his three-piece suit; the carefree, mellow hippie; the surfer bro, who happens to have shinier and longer hair than you; or even the shy, mysterious hottie, who doesn’t say much but always intrigued you, nonetheless.
No matter what kind of guy you want, there is usually some sort of pattern among your attractions.
Think of this box of chocolates as a fresh start to dating. What will you reach for first? Something different and exotic, right? Or, will you go for something trusty that you know you like? Is it finally time to try something new?
You reach into the box and grab the appealing salted caramel piece. You’re excited. This could be it, your new type.
You take a bite of the candy but place the remaining half back in the box for someone else to try. You like it, but after that one taste, you decide to go back to your traditional milk chocolate piece.
Why do you do this? Well, you were curious about what the exotic piece could offer. After you figured it out, your focus reverted back to what you’re used to.
Many girls do the same damn thing with dating. They have a typical type to which they usually stick. Having a typical preference in men has its pros and cons.
Pro: You don’t give a sh*t about what anyone has to say. You know what you like and you’re not wasting any time trying to figure it out. You go, girl.
Con: You’re being too picky and not giving yourself — or these poor guys — a fighting chance.
When breaking this cycle and going loco over a new and exciting guy, we often take him for a test drive. We'll try a fling with him for a little and then put him right back where we found him.
It's not because we didn’t like him, necessarily; rather, we always go back to what we know -- what makes us comfortable is what remains consistent.
This guy we keep reverting back to could be lethal or positive to our wellbeing; it doesn’t matter. This type of guy has a consistency. We know what to expect, good or bad, and we are comfortable.
Eventually, you might call salted caramel the “one that got away.” We all have them! It’s okay! At least you got a taste.
Eliminate these situations from your life and play the game right. Try different flavors so you can really determine what you're craving..
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