You just came home from a night out on the town with your best friends. You keep reminiscing on that cute guy you made eye contact with across the bar. In fact, you thought he was so cute, you decided to slip him your number. After falling asleep with your phone next to you waiting for his text or call, your phone buzzes. It's him! You decide to wait a little bit before responding so you don't seem so eager.
He asks if you want to meet up the next night to go out for drinks. "Sure, that would be great," you reply, when really you want to write, "YES!!!" You meet at a popular local bar. It's loud so you can't really hear him too well. You get closer to each other to make the conversation easier. The night seems to be going smoothly and he seems to really like you.
Before you know it, it's 3 am and the bar is closing. You say your goodbyes and head home. You text all your girlfriends and tell them that might have been the best date you've ever been on with someone you just met. You fall asleep feeling confident and happy.
It's been a few days now since you went out with this handsome stranger and you haven't heard a word from him. You wonder, is he okay? Did he lose my number? Maybe he just doesn't want to move too quickly? Well the brutal truth could be, he really just wasn't that into you. So how can you tell if he's totally not into you when everything seems to be going so well? Here are some helpful tips:
He didn't call or text you the next day.
Men these days don't use the "three day rule." If they like you, or are interested in you, they'll show you by calling or texting. If you don't hear from him the next day, then it’s probably not a good sign, especially when it seems like you guys were enjoying each other’s company. A man will tell a woman that he enjoyed his evening with her either later that night, or sometime the next day.
He doesn't say anything about the night he first saw you.
A man that is truly interested in a woman will mention something about the first time he saw her. He'll say some things along the lines of, "You looked really great," "I couldn't keep my eyes off of you" or "I knew I had to get to know you better." If he doesn't mention anything about the first night you met, then honestly, he really wasn't paying much attention to you. You just didn't grab his attention.
He didn't ask for your number.
When a man sees a woman he wants to get to know or feels interested in, he will ask for her number. Men are not afraid of approaching women; they don't let opportunities pass them by. They will make moves, and if he didn't make the move to ask for your number first, think twice about it.
He pays more attention to his phone than you.
A man that likes you will put his phone away. He won't be checking it throughout dinner. He won't be dimming the brightness to be able to text during a movie. He won't answer a phone call (unless it's really important business). A man that truly wants to get to know you will put all distractions aside and pay close attention to you and only you.
So, next time you are out with a new man, pay attention to these signs. It may seem like everything is going great, but if he does any of the above, ditch the guy. Turn the tables. He’ll be thinking you just weren't that into him.