How To Let Go Of Something That Ended Before It Started
There are so many things we want to say to all the guys out there who have ended relationships before they ever really started.
As difficult as it may be, we often refrain from speaking our minds in an attempt to uphold our dignity.
If you've experienced this, you've probably been left to question what exactly went wrong… especially if you thought the feelings were mutual.
You know you shouldn't, but you can't help clinging onto that "what if" factor.
These heartbreaks aren't any less disappointing each time we endure them, but we inevitably learn how to cope and move on.
Here are six ways to let go of the guy who ended things before they started.
1. Go on a social media detox.
Sometimes, we just need a little break to help us recharge.
Cleansing the mind by taking time away from social media is a great first step when you need to refocus (no matter what you're going through in life).
With your would-have-been-bae's pictures and status updates no longer in your face every day, it'll be so much easier to move forward with your life and focus on yourself.
2. Take a spontaneous vacation.
Call up your main girlfriends and plan a fun weekend getaway, or take a spontaneous trip to someplace you've never been before.
You deserve it, and you'll have an amazing time soaking up some rays with your booty parked in the sand, sipping on endless piña coladas. Let the good times roll, and forget all about your would-have-been-bae.
3. Keep on moving, and don't dwell on the past.
Many of us are firm believers in the “what's meant to be, will be” mentality, but we still can't help asking ourselves, “Why couldn't this one just BE?”
Whatever you do, don't waste time dwelling on what could have been. Instead, focus on living and thriving in the present.
Remind yourself of all of the good things going on in your life, and keep moving forward… because that's exactly what he's doing, too.
4. Vent to your girlfriends.
Don't keep any of those feelings bottled up.
Vent everything and anything to your friends, all while you guys enjoy bottles of fine wine and pints of chocolate peanut butter ice cream. Because, let's be honest: They've seen you at your best, they've seen you at your worst and they know how to pull you out of any sort of funk.
5. Don't feel sorry for yourself.
It's so freaking easy to simply tell the world, "Fuck off, because I'm feeling sorry for myself."
Seriously, JUST DON'T DO IT. It's not healthy, and you're certainly not doing yourself, or anyone else, any favors.
6. Remind yourself of how damn lucky you are.
You're an extremely lucky chick, and honestly, this dude did you a favor.
I'm not going to lie: YES, it's disappointing AF, and YES, it feels really crummy to be so excited about a relationship in one moment, and watch it fizzle out into nothing in the next.
But, if this guy strung you along even further, made more promises he couldn't keep and still set you up for heartbreak, you would feel even more betrayed than you do now.
Recharge, refocus and only put yourself back out there when you're truly ready, because your well-being matters more than any guy ever will.