6 Ways To Find The Love Of Your Life When You're In College

by Shelly Greenstein

We all know how hard it is to find that one special person to settle down with in life. You work your ass off every day to look good, to be funny in the hopes someone will think you're "worthy" enough to date.

It's hard enough as it is to date in general, but when you add on the stresses of college, it makes it that much harder.

I started dating my now fiancé while still in school and I can definitely say although it was not simple, it can be easy if you prioritize things correctly.

Here are six ways to meet the love of your life while in college:

1. Figure yourself out first.

When I first started college, I wanted to find the perfect boyfriend immediately. I went from guy to guy, searching for something I wasn't even 100 percent sure I really wanted.

If you aren't clear on what exactly it is you're searching for in a partner, hold off on seriously dating until you do. If you search for something you're not even sure of, you'll only end up wasting your time and energy.

Instead, focus on yourself. Figure out who you are as a person and what kind of significant other might help you become the best version of yourself.

2. Be honest.

Dishonesty is a rookie mistake. Starting at a new school where you barely know anyone can make it very tempting to be less than honest.

When I was a freshman in college, I definitely embellished the truth from time to time. What I didn't realize was how negatively it affected me in the long run in terms of love.

If you're not honest with yourself and the new people you meet, how can any of those new connections turn into something real in the long run?

3. Exude confidence.

It is extremely intimidating to start dating in a new environment. Scratch that, it's extremely intimidating to date in general.

It can be really hard to be confident while drowning in a sea of classwork and a million new people.

If you focus on all your positive qualities while dating in college, you can be a more confident person.

Just keep reminding yourself of how amazing you truly are. In the end, your potential significant others will find you more attractive for it.

4. Try new things.

I think everyone can agree college is truly the time to experiment in your life, whether it be drugs, alcohol or even sex.

You can also experiment in the field of dating. Try going to new places or joining a sorority or fraternity.

I tried a few dating apps and that's how I ended up with the love of my life. You really never know what will end up connecting you with the one.

5. Balance is key.

One of the most important things to focus on when attempting to date in college is balancing your personal and academic lives.

If you do not put all your effort into maintaining these two key parts of your life, neither will turn out to be as successful as it could potentially be.

If you put all your effort into finding love or even maintaining a relationship while in college, your academic career will be negatively affected. For example, I don't know about you, but I would definitely resent my boyfriend if he were the reason I was failing a class.

On the other hand, if you put all of your focus on your studies, leaving no time for being social, you'll end up missing out on the most enjoyable and essential part of your life.

Truly managing your time and overall schedule while in college will definitely ensure a more enjoyable experience for both your academic career as well as your love life. 

6. Take your time.

I know a lot of people think they need to find their true loves as soon as possible, but you'll find your soul mate when the time is right.

College is the time to figure yourself out and have experiences that will ultimately make you the person you are meant to be. If you are only focused on finding the one, you'll end up missing out on what truly matters.

I'm not saying to drop your search all together, I'm just saying to put yourself first and your dating life second in order to better your college experience in the long run.