Dating — This Is What Your Handwriting Says About Who You Are In Relationships

While most of us know handwriting can reveal certain aspects of our personalities, who knew it could also hold the answers to all your relationship problems?

Um, HELLO, we did!

Well, we found out, anyway.

Enjoy our helpful handwriting guide to find out why your love life resembles a trash pit.


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Aggressiveness can be seen in hard, right-pointing upstrokes that replace a lower loop on the Y, J, etc.

Aggressive people physically push themselves into relationships or push other people away, either by outright rejecting them or being so intense that they scare them off by getting too involved too quickly.

You're likely to enjoy rough sex and probably need it often.

Desire for attention

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A desire for attention can be found in high-ending strokes that flourish at the end of a word, reaching upward.

You're probably someone who needs to be the center of attention in your relationship, and you're always finding new ways to get your partner to notice and appreciate you.

Your need for recognition may, at times, present itself as selfless, romantic generosity by bestowing expensive or showy gifts on your partner that ultimately make you look good.


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Dominance is depicted by crossing T's with a downward slant on the right with a blunt ending.

The dominant person tends to be in control and likes it. You're able to take charge in relationships and fit so naturally into the role that making your partners do whatever you want is easy.

Part of this easy dynamic is that you may attract partners who are naturally submissive.

However, if you are someone who also gets easily bored without a challenging partner, you may have trouble finding lasting relationships.

Dual personalities

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Dual personalities are shown by an obvious slant variation from left to right in the same sentence and sometimes even in the same word.

You most likely have trouble getting into relationships because your head and your heart are not in the same place.

Your tendency to either intellectualize your emotions or to impulsively follow your gut while ignoring your rational mind makes it difficult to find someone you ever truly feel you can settle down with.

It's best to find someone who can roll with your unpredictability and find a balance between communicating with you and giving you the space you need to withdraw when you feel insecure.

Emotionally withdrawn

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Oh, look: the handwriting of every man I dated in my early 20s, exemplified by a consistent leftward slant.

Those with this leftward slant in their handwriting have the personality of an introvert. You keep your own counsel, rarely express your feelings and are more apt to make logical, unemotional decisions.

You're probably not the first to say, "I love you" in any relationship, if you even say it at all.

Fear of success

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A fear of success is exemplified by a down-turned Y or G that doesn't cross the baseline. The closer the line of your Y or G stem comes to the baseline, the closer you get to a successful relationship before hightailing it the other way.

You're what they call a "heartbreaker," which is cute before you turn 28, but when you're on the brink of dying alone, you might question your decisions.

You might notice that the closer you come to having a successful relationship, the fear of rejection creeps in, taking over your actions.

Go to therapy. Talk about your fears with your partner.

You'll be glad you did it.

High self-esteem

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A high-crossed T-bar and a larger "I" when used as the personal pronoun reveals really good things when it comes to relationships.

You are endowed with confidence, ambition and the ability to plan ahead. You have high goals when it comes to your relationships and high personal expectations when it comes to both your partner and yourself.

You may be a slightly perfectionist, but generally, you have a balanced, positive self-image.

By loving yourself first, you are better at loving others.

Lack of trust or fear of intimacy

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When the lower loops of Y's, G's and sometimes J's are almost exactly the same throughout your writing, you tend to be more of an anti-social person.

You may have difficulty trusting anyone enough to let them into your life to truly get to know you.

There is a certain fear of being hurt emotionally, which stems primarily from a past that is rife with emotional pain.

Though the level of pain may vary from person to person with this handwriting, the lack of intimacy in their lives is consistent.

Lives for the moment

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Writing that looks like every note you got in middle school, with no crazy decorative upper zone strokes, reflects someone who is socially and emotionally immature, but also fun and spontaneous.

You may rush into relationships too quickly and become enmeshed with the object of your affection, whom you don't see for who they truly are.

This kind of transference is dangerous in relationships because the person doing it fails to see reality or their part in creating it.

If you have this handwriting, your relationships may not be long-lasting, but with some self-awareness, you could improve them quickly.

Citations: Handwriting Analysis Quick Reference Guide for Beginners (Handwriting University International)