Guys Get Real About How To Get Over Someone Who Cheated On You
This morning, a guy submitted a post on Reddit asking the following question: "How do you get over someone being unfaithful?"
Here's his story:
I recently discovered my significant other was seeing someone else for the first two months of our relationship. We are both in our 20s and have been together for the best part of a year, and I thought everything was great. I thought we where exclusive in the beginning of the relationship, and she made herself out to be a one guy kind of girl, telling me she has been single for months, etc. Needless to say, when I confronted her about it, she even admitted to me she knew we were a thing at the time and that she did it because she was "scared" of having feelings for me and he was pressuring her... She also told me it went no further than kissing, but I know he stayed over at her parents house one night. And even though she tells me they weren't seeing each other anymore then, I find it hard to believe nothing happened that night. I'm really confused and not sure how to deal with this situation. And I guess I would love some advice for perspective.
Look, it's never fun to be cheated on. I've never been cheated on, but my trust has been majorly breached by a guy once or twice in the past. I personally would never take someone back who tried to sabotage things from the beginning, but the circumstances vary from situation to situation.
This case sounds like a cold-cut case of "she's just not that into him" to me, but he seems to be torn. And hey, I kind of understand. Love (and cheating) is complicated.
But that's just my opinion. Other guys weighed in on what he should do, since bro code is always important when it comes to this sort of thing. Here's what they had to say:
According to this guy, he should break up with her because his time is precious:
According to this guy, he should move on (but grow some balls first):
According to this guy, he should talk it out with her before anything else because communication heals all:
According to this guy, just about anything can be solved with a good workout:
According to this guy, no matter what he chooses, he's never going to be able to move on:
I hope this dude gets over the girl because once a cheater, always a cheater. She also sounds sus AF because she's "afraid" to get too close to someone emotionally, which sounds to me like she needs more time on her own.
My advice? He should leave and never look back. Greener pastures lie ahead, my friend.