Ever seen a breathtakingly beautiful woman and not said anything because she was "out of your league?"
If you have, slap yourself out of it. Seriously, this isn't a concept you should even think about.
My mate recently joked how January is the best time of year to "bat out of your league" with women. (He says hotties are more likely to settle in miserable weather.)
It was terrible banter, but it made me realize this: I'm a 5'9'' slaphead with facial scars and crow's feet, but it won't ever cross my mind that a woman might be "out of my league."
With a bit of work, you shouldn't ever feel this way either.
If you're approaching properly, you're in the top league.
Let's say you spot the girl of your dreams shopping for groceries. Maybe she's strolling through the park. Or even at the bar early in the evening while you're not wasted.
The majority of men won't even introduce themselves in these situations.
Even in more acceptable environments, most who do say hi to her are half-expecting rejection. They speak without conviction. They say stupid things and give up at the first sign of awkwardness.
So, just by stepping up with strong eye contact, a clear voice and some self-belief, you're putting yourself among the most eligible men.
Looks really aren't that important.
Yes, your appearance plays a part in winning her over. By all means, work on your fashion and join the gym. Women prefer a handsome man over a haggard mess, but here's what matters more:
If you have these things going for you, there's no need to worry about what league she's in.
Girls are only humans.
How do you even know what league she's in without meeting her? Sure, she won the genetic lottery, but she's still only human.
She has insecurities too. She farts, shaves and laughs at silly jokes just like the rest of us. We're all in the same league when you look at it like that.
The only way we're truly separated is by what we've done with our lives. If you're a bloke who's overcome challenges and achieved goals, that's way more impressive than looking good in a cocktail dress.
The only achievement you know she has so far is being hot, so get over there and find out what's she's actually got going on.
Your plan of action.
If you've read this far, but still don't see yourself as a big-league player, here's a plan of action.
First, list 10 things you love about yourself (and that the girl of your dreams will also love about you). Include the fact that you actually approached her in a non-pathetic way. Maybe you'll write down a few physical attributes, but try to focus on personal traits. These are more important.
Now write down everything you don't like about yourself. Be brutally honest. Maybe there's some physical things you can't fix on this list, but I'd imagine most of it is improvable. So your final step is to make a plan to improve these flaws.
Give yourself permission.
Once you've done this, give yourself permission to speak to any woman without fear.
After all, you can now come at her knowing there are at least 10 things she should love about you. Yes, you still have flaws, but you're actively working on improving on these too.
What more could a woman want? Suddenly there is no more "out of her league" BECAUSE YOU'RE IN THE PREMIER LEAGUE, MATE. She'd be lucky to have you.
Sure, it won't work all the time. Superficial girls will still exist. Some will insist you're not their type. But just by scrapping this "out of my league" bullshit from your belief system, you'll do a lot better with the ladies.
The truth, is women will typically put you in whatever "league" you believe you're in.
*What's more, my mate might actually have a point about getting hotter women in January, so there's no better time to put this plan into action…