This week we have Annabella* who was ghosted by the first guy she actually liked after they made plans to go away for the weekend together:
I met this guy on Bumble, and we talked a few times before he asked me to get dinner. Aside from him being two hours late, I was still cool about it because he made me laugh and got my sarcasm. This was the first guy I actually liked! We laughed and stayed until the place closed, then headed to a bar. It was honestly great!
He made me laugh and got my sarcasm. This was the first guy I actually liked!
We talked constantly through text and phone calls, but work was getting crazy for the both of us, so we backed off from one another. He then started being flaky by not responding until days later and coming up with excuses for our second date.
Lame, I know... but otherwise we had pet names and were making future plans to hang out. To save myself from temptation, I would erase his number if he didn't respond in two to three days. One day, I finally had enough and called him out. He apologized and said it wouldn't happen again. We made not-so-formal plans to go to Vermont the next weekend. I told him I had tickets to "Hamilton" and he asked months in advance for the time off to come with me. That Friday, I asked about Vermont because it wasn't set in stone. He told me he was in Texas with his sister. We live in Boston. He knew I had been there before, so I gave him a list of places to go and things to do. He didn't respond until Sunday. I wanted to seem chill and cool, so I told him to text or call when he was back and had actual plans he was willing to stick with.
Anabella hasn't heard from the guy since she sent him that last text.
It SUCKS, right?
We've all been in that situation where we really like someone who doesn't seem to really like us back. We try to play it "chill and cool," but all we really seem to be doing is pushing them further and further away.
I feel for her. But I also think she deserves someone who isn't two hours late to the first date.
What do you guys make of all of this? Do you see where she was coming from? Do you see where he was coming from?
Whatever the case may be, comment your thoughts about it below! I always want to hear about your take on things.
*Names have been changed.