Every Tuesday, I put together a new installment for my column, "Boom, Ghosted," and end up having to ask myself the same question: why do guys ghost?
And I don't mean ghost a girl after a couple of dates, I mean completely stop communication with girls they were in real, long-term relationships with.
WHY DO PEOPLE THINK IT'S OK TO JUST BAIL ON A PERSON THEY ARE COMMITTED TO?
Well, six men are helping me answer that question once and for all. Here are their reasons for ghosting girls that they had been dating for six months or longer:
This guy just didn't feel like dealing with it.
Honestly? I got busy with me and didn't have time for her and I didn't want to deal with it. Asshole thing to do? Yup but it was easier on me.
This guy got bored.
Interesting enough to start something with, not very interesting once it gets going. There's no ill-will so you don't want to 'break' the relationship but your [sic] not motivated to maintain it, so you just fade away.
This guy thought an explanation seemed unnecessary.
If she was abusive in any way or simply a jerk on purpose, I'd leave her hanging too. No need for explanations.
This guy saw it as the only way to actually cut her out.
Because she was fucking psycho and emotionally manipulative it was the only way I get [sic] cut her out reliably.
This guy thought she was flirting with other guys.
It wasn't so much of hurting her but really looking out for myself....she was entertaining other dudes into thinking they had a chance with her so I made it easier for them. She's a smart girl and caught on quickly that we wasn't [sic] dating anymore once she stalked my facebook page and saw no evidence of "us". She texted "you're a fucking asshole"....nope just a product of my environment
This guy didn't feel like she wanted a big breakup.
Every time I "ghosted" it was because I didn't feel she took the relationship seriously enough to warrant a big breakup scene.
Hopefully this experience brought you one step closer to understanding why that evil maniac just stopped responding to you.
It definitely gave me some insight... but doesn't exactly make me feel any better?