Ah, ghosting. It's the dating phenomenon that happens when people are too cowardly to actually end things with the people they've been seeing, so they choose to just… disappear instead.
Ghosters are idiots. But if you've ever been ghosted, know that you're not alone.
In this weekly column, I share a tale of a time a reader was ghosted (with accompanying screenshots) so you can see the last text that was sent or words that were uttered before someone decided to disappear forever. I present to you: Boom, Ghosted.
This week, we have Jenna*, who was ghosted by the same guy who stood by her through her health scare. Then, boom: He was gone. Later, she found out (*SPOILER ALERT*) he had met someone else, and it was "going well."
But, that's enough of my summary. Read her story for yourself here:
I'm from Canada and got matched with a guy on Tinder from Maine, since the distance doesn't recognize international borders. I'd traveled about three hours one way to stay with him for two weekends over the spring, after we'd been talking since January. Our last weekend together was the beginning of May. We had a great time, and we talked for a few weeks after.
That included him comforting me through a bit of a scare when I was told they had found abnormal cells during a Pap smear. (It turned out to be normal, but I was afraid at the time.) Then, he just kinda dropped off the face of the earth in the middle of May. I had gotten busy with work, and then messaged him the beginning of June. I got a "Hey, I'm good! How about yourself?" after four days. I'd sent a couple more messages over the next day or so. No response. Then finally, today, I asked him how he'd been, and if he was still planning on coming up to visit me this summer, since we'd talked about it lots. I got the reply that he'd actually started seeing someone, and his parents were going to be visiting, so he wasn't going to be going anywhere for his vacation. You can read the end for yourself here:
I know some of our past "Boom, Ghosted" posts have had crazier plot twists and storylines, but something about this one REALLY got me. I guess it was just that overarching feeling of insignificance.
It's a terrible feeling, right? Thinking you have a special connection with them, and then realizing it's completely one-sided? It was so one-sided that he didn't even feel the need to let her know when he met someone else.
My heart feels for Jenna big time. And, I'm assuming I'm not the only one who has ever gone through something similar to what she went through with this guy.
But, what do you think? Have you been through something like this? Have you ever been on the other end? Do you think what he did was as mean as I do? Go ahead and share your opinions here.
Have a ghosting story of your own? You can always submit to me here on Facebook.
*Names have been changed.