Being old-fashioned is nothing to be ashamed of. Especially when you add a bit of modern flare. I’m not one to respect or appreciate tradition, but some traditions – or beliefs on reality – are worth maintaining.
Enter the modern-day, old-fashioned gentleman. He is the sort of man who takes only the best of the past and innovates it to fit modern-day standards.
He sees the good and the bad from past and present, electing to keep certain things alive while letting go of those that should have never existed in the first place. Are you a modern-day, old-fashioned gentleman?
1. You wear what you want to wear, but you keep it classy.
Let’s be honest with ourselves… there is an aesthetically pleasing way to dress and then there are other ways. It may be entirely based on socially acceptable beliefs, but because we function within a society, it’s best to keep those beliefs in mind.
The way you dress greatly decides how people judge you and how they treat you. Plus, there is such a thing as beauty – and those laws are governed by nature. Try to use them as guidelines.
2. You treat women with respect, but you know better than to be a "nice guy."
Women are tricky because while they want to be respected, they also want you to have them when you fall in love. They want to be inhaled, ravished, loved, consumed.
The modern, yet old-fashioned guy does his best to be the man the woman he loves wants him to be.
3. You don’t need to swear because you have an extensive vocabulary.
A real old-fashioned gentleman uses his words and uses them like a painter uses a brush.
Why exclaim profanities when you can better describe how aggravated you are? But don’t overdo it. Simplicity is key in communication.
4. You respect yourself – body and mind.
You can’t replace you – you can’t upgrade to a newer and better model. A proper old-fashioned man treats himself as an old-fashioned man would.
He makes sure to look good, smell good, taste good, and – most importantly – feel good. Being on the top of your game mentally and physically is the only way a true old-fashioned gentleman wishes to live.
5. You stay close with your family members because you want them to know you love them.
They raised you. They were a huge part of your childhood. And they love you – you want them to know that you love them to. It’s easy to take family for granted.
But life is a temporary thing; you will lose people. Don’t lose the opportunity to make them feel loved and appreciated.
6. When you take a woman out on a date, you make sure it’s memorable for her.
A real modern, old-fashioned man doesn’t want to use women. He wants to create memories with them and for them – as well as for himself, of course.
Too many people these days see dating as a recreational activity rather than as a potential start to a new life. If you don’t believe seeing them is important then it won’t be.
7. You’re comfortable with relying on yourself and don’t take handouts.
Old-fashioned guys like to do things their own way, with their own two hands. They take pride in their work and their accomplishments, never wishing to have it any other way.
8. You believe in true love and aren’t afraid to fall.
An old-fashioned gentleman knows the importance of a woman’s love – in fact, he lives for it. He wants to find that person who will mean the world to him, and he isn’t afraid to devote himself to her when she’s found.
Well… he may be afraid. He may be scared sh*tless. But he goes for it anyway because that’s what he wants and he goes after what he wants.
9. You treat your woman like a queen because she’s your woman.
While he treats all women with respect, his woman gets special treatment. Why? Because she’s special and he needs her to understand that she is. That is the purpose he sees himself as serving: making her feel like the amazing, beautiful, incredible human being that she is.
Photo Courtesy: Moritz Aust