7 Childish Games We All Play That Just Make The Hook-Up Culture Even Worse

by Paul Hudson

Look at you and how smart you are. So witty. So sly. You’re so intelligent that no one can compete with the mind games you play.

You’re a winner – always a winner. Always thinking two, nay, three steps ahead. Always thinking about how others will perceive you, how this person will interpret your actions, looking to find the meaning and purpose behind them.

Being the borderline sociopath that you are, you understand that you’re being scrutinized, that you’re trying to be understood and figured out. But you… you won’t allow that. You’re too smart for that!

In the world we live in, you have to stay atop of your game. If you want to win, you have to see the world, not through your eyes, but through the eyes of your competition.

You have to understand how your opponents think, their perspectives, their thought processes, and their inevitable conclusions.

It’s a dog-eat-dog world, and you don’t plan on making it onto the menu. You’re smart – there’s no denying it.

But then… then we have a little thing called love. Love is not a game, yet we treat it as if it were. We play games from the moment we meet a potential lover, to the moment the relationship is over.

And over it will be because when you play games with such high stakes, there has to be a winner... and, therefore, a loser.

You’ve lost complete perspective – forgotten what love is.

Hell, maybe you never had a good understanding to begin with. That’s why I’m here to tell you that you need to cut the crap. You need to get off your high horse and really think about what you’re doing.

I know that you think you’re smart, but because you don’t understand the consequences of these pointless games that you’re playing, it only proves how stupid you really are.

1. “Hmm… I could text her back now, but then she may think that I’m really into her.”

Yes. She may think that you actually like her. How crazy of a thought is that? Imagine actually letting the person you’re falling for know that you’re interested in her. We could never do that… let’s instead make her think that we’re too busy to respond.

2.  “I know that I know his name – I’ve been thinking about him for weeks. Let’s pretend like I don’t remember.”

What better way to make someone fall in love with you than to pretend that you don’t remember his name?

Once he thinks that he isn’t important enough for you to remember, he’ll surely melt in your arms. Yup. That’ll work.

3. “I had such a great time with her. I honestly can’t wait to see her again. I’ll call her in a few weeks. Or just text her. Yeah. I’ll text her next month.”

Reaching out to her too soon after your first date is definitely a no-no. You don’t want her to think that you’re really into her.

If she thought that then she’d obviously get bored of you immediately and move on to someone who will ignore her completely. Because that’s what every person is looking for in a partner...

4. “I’m going to look like sh*t next time I see him. I want to make sure he likes me no matter how disgusting I look.”

How exactly is it that you think making yourself look unattractive will get you what you’re looking for? You will look horrible sooner or later, regardless of whether or not you choose to.

You’re eventually going to get sick and look like death. But I guess if you scare him away now, he’ll never have to actually see you at your worst. Good thinking.

5. “If I don’t make sure that she knows that I have other options then she may get to thinking that I can’t leave her at any moment.”

Genius. Absolute genius. There is nothing more attractive than a person who reminds you that he can dump you at any moment for another piece of ass. Clearly that’s what he sees you as – you being so easily replaceable.

Then again, if you have to remind her how great you are and how much others want you – without her coming to that conclusion on her own – then you probably wouldn’t work out anyway.

6. “I’m going to make him wait to sleep with me for as long as possible. I don’t want him to think that I’m easy.”

And clearly you don’t want him to think that you’re interested in sleeping with him either. Not to say that you should drop your pants the first, second or even third time that you meet.

But making him, or her, wait for weeks just as a test is silly. You’re not supposed to be testing anyone in the first place!

7.  “I refuse to be the first one to say ‘I love you.’ I can’t give her the upper hand. I can’t come off as being weak. I can’t let her win.”

Let’s be honest – you’re just scared. You fell in love and you don’t know what the hell you’re supposed to do. You want to tell her. Hell, you want to tell the whole world. Yet, doing so will run you the risk of being rejected, of getting your heart broken.

In life, there is no reward without risk. If you love her and you feel like it’s time to let her know, then let her know. Be assertive. Be strong. Be the loving partner you want to be.

If you really feel like playing games, then whip out your smartphone. I’m sure you have plenty of ways to waste your time that won’t require mind-f*cking a person you care for. Games have no place in a relationship. Except, of course, in the bedroom – anything goes once the clothes come off.

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