How My Girlfriend's Love For 'Friends' Made Me Realize She's My Lobster

by Howard Rudnick
Warner Bros. Television

"Friends" is one of the most iconic television shows of all time, as well as the sitcom that defined the 1990s.

Ross, Rachel, Monica, Chandler, Joey and Phoebe entered America's televisions and hearts for over two decades.

Their ups, downs, triumphs, despairs, struggles and shenanigans gave us all the feels.

I was never a true fan of "Friends" during its initial run, mainly because I wasn't old enough to truly understand the humor and content it presented.

Yes, there are constant reruns on TV, but if you didn't catch the show from the beginning, there were a lot of unanswered questions and jokes that would go over your head.

Aside from the week I spent on Puerto Rico during spring break senior year watching "Friends" reruns, while recuperating from massive hangovers, I just could not get into the show.

My girlfriend is a "Friends" fanatic.

She knows all the words to probably every episode, she uses "Friends" references that are lost on me, her sorority family line presented her with a Central Perk designed paddle and she begged me incessantly to watch the series.

For over a year, I was nagged and nagged until Netflix announced they were about to make women (and men) everywhere cling to their accounts because "Friends" would be released to the streaming service in its entirety.

Luckily for my girlfriend, and unluckily for me, I caught the flu at the beginning of 2015, the same time "Friends" was released on Netflix.

I thought, why not give this show a chance?

A little over 15 days later, I had laughed, cried, jumped out of bed and texted my girlfriend psychotically about "Friends."

When I got to the episode where Phoebe was explaining that lobsters have soulmates and said that Ross was Rachel's lobster, it was in that moment that it clicked.

I loved my girlfriend very much, but after watching 10 seasons of "Friends" and seeing their relationship go through the peaks and troughs, I realized that I truly had found my person, my other half.

Every time the episode with the lobster comes on and I'm with my girlfriend, I get that extra boost of happiness and sense of security.

I don't have to search anymore.

One of the best things about my relationship with my lobster is our love of food, much like our fictional friends.

They were always noshing, having brunch, going out to eat (and in Phoebe's case, dating a health inspector). Food played a central role in their everyday lives.

Central Perk was their second home.

My lobster and I are at home wherever we are together.

What "Friends" taught me about relationships is we all are meant to be with someone who truly deserves to be with us, as well as someone who accepts us for all of our quirks and weird habits.

Whether we're overly competitive (like Monica); think we're hysterical (Chandler); eccentric (Phoebe); selfish, but loving (Rachel); a genuine good person (Ross) or loyal, but needy (Joey), we all deserve to be loved.

Each of the friends brought something to their friendships and relationships that we were able to identify with.

Every relationship is different, but if you feel you're with your lobster, it will feel right.

Your lobster will always be there for you (just like the friends in apartment 20), and they'll see the good and the bad.

Your lobster challenge you to better yourself, pick you up when you're down and feed you.

Thanks to "Friends," I know that life is going to be this way.

I don't know if I would have truly understood that I had found my lobster, and more importantly, I would have never learned about healthy relationship goals (thanks, Monica and Chandler).

"Friends" has taught me the definition of #goals, and I'm forever thankful.