Being overly sensitive has its unique challenges and perks when it comes to falling in love.
The intensity of your emotions makes an already overpowering feeling a life-changing experience.
When you're overly sensitive, you feel everything too much. This is both a good and bad thing.
You get to feel the intense, warm, butterfly-type of feeling in those moments when you truly feel understood by another human being.
On the flip side, when things get tough, your heart feels like someone put it through a blender, and it refuses to stop the torturous whirlpool tearing up your insides.
Here are the reasons why:
1. You overanalyze everything.
When you feel too much, you can't help but obsess over the tiniest details.
For example, if your partner doesn’t text you back within the hour, or if his or her text just seems “off,” you end up lost in a frenzy in your own head.
You keep overanalyzing what is going on, why he or she is behaving this way and how to fix the problem.
You overanalyze details to such an extreme, you drive yourself crazy.
2. When you break up, it’s like a knife cutting into your soul.
Breaking up is horribly painful and gut-wrenching for anyone. But if you're an overly sensitive human being, a breakup can be one of the most painful experiences to endure.
When you feel things deeply, having to actually separate from someone you were once so close to, so connected to and so in love with can feel like a part of you is dying.
It’s dramatic, sure. But when you're overly sensitive, you can’t help it.
3. You can’t stop thinking about the “what ifs.”
When you're too sensitive for your own good, you tend to have a lot of anxiety.
This leads you down a train of thought riddled with, “Oh my God, what if X happens?”
You can literally drive yourself crazy with hypothetical scenarios of what could go wrong.
4. Controlling your emotions can be difficult.
When you feel everything too deeply, your emotions get the better of you.
If you’re angry, you're truly angry. Your insides burn, and your brain goes on autopilot.
Your senses and logic disappear. You say something you regret, and you can’t stand yourself after.
5. Self-hatred hurts.
If you do or say something you regret, or if something goes wrong in the relationship, you end up in a masochistic, inner dialogue about what you could have or should have done.
You drive yourself crazy trying to understand how you could become such a horrible person or how you could be so stupid.
You obsess over how horrible of a person you are, and you take it to the point where it can actually impact your self-esteem.
6. Sabotaging yourself comes naturally.
Often times, people who feel too much end up doing things to push the people they love away.
Why? Because love is vulnerable, and vulnerability is terrifying, especially when you feel too much.
This leads you to do things that end up pushing the person you love away, even though it only hurts you in the end.
7. You project your feelings onto the other person.
You assume your partner feels things as intensely as you do.
So, if he or she is unusually silent, you might start to wonder what's secretly going on inside his or her head.
You micro-analyze the tiniest, most meaningless behaviors and create a hypothesis about what he or she must be feeling.
This does have some positives to it.
You end up making your partner feel loved and understood because you care about his or her well-being and emotional wellness to such an extent.
But the problem is, more often than not, you're projecting feelings that don’t even exist onto your partner.
However, despite these negatives, being an overly sensitive person does truly allow you to empathize with your partner more.
It’s not something you can control.
Embrace it because life is too short to spend trying to become someone you’re not.
While being overly sensitive in love can hurt, trying to dull your feelings is the worst thing you can possibly do.