I was recently ghosted by a guy I didn't even like after our third date.
When he walked me to my car after we saw a movie, I knew we were never going to see each other again. We had absolutely zero romantic chemistry.
A few days later, instead of ghosting, he decided to text me this:
It's hard to say when breakup texts are really appropriate when you're not actually dating or committed to the person. Sometimes, they're courteous, and other times, they can feel a little bit presumptuous and unnecessary.
But if you're not the type of person who likes to ghost themselves out of someone's life, then here are some easy texts you can send someone when you've gone on a few dates together, and you know you don't want to pursue a relationship any further.
1. "You're Awesome, But I Feel More Of A Friend Vibe Between Us"
If the feeling is reciprocal, then you really can remain pals.
I've actually made a lot of friends off of dating apps with really interesting, funny guys whom I simply wasn't attracted to.
If you know after a few dates that the guy isn't relationship material, but you still want to keep him in your life, then be honest and let him know. If he's a good, normal guy, who sees women as more than sexual beings, he'll be open to the idea of friendship, too.
2. "I've Decided It's Not A Great Time For Me To Be Dating, But I Wish You The Best Of Luck"
Do you need to go into why now is not a great time for you to be dating? No.
Don't tell that guy you went to dinner with twice that you're struggling with a big life issue or that you're still hung up on your ex. That is what I like to call TMI.
But even if you're lying, telling someone it's not a good time for you to be dating is a get-out-of-jail-free card. The guy you're "breaking up with" doesn't feel bad about himself, and usually, they won't ask any questions because they don't want to invade your privacy.
So whether you actually realize it's not a good time for you to enter a relationship, or you just want to use this as an excuse, it's usually the easiest way to break things off without actually ghosting someone.
3. "It's Been Great Getting To Know You, But I Don't Think We Should See Each Other Anymore"
Follow this one up with, "But you're awesome, and I wish you the best."
If you're going to take the time to end things without ghosting them, make sure you end your text with something positive. Let the guy know he's great, and you had so much fun with him, but you don't want to continue the relationship.
You can wish him well in the future, and even add in an inside joke or something funny to lighten up the situation before you end the conversation.
Kind of like how I was ghosted by my date!
4. "Hey you! You're Hot And Fun, But I'm Not Feeling A Connection For Some Reason. Let's Just Be Friends?"
People love compliments, especially when they are getting bad news. If someone is going to reject me and let me know they aren't interested, I still want them to think I am a babe with a great personality.
So if you're gonna let that guy go, tell him you think he's handsome and fun to be around, but you're just not feeling it.
This is the best text to send someone you really felt a fun dynamic with, just not in the romance department. And this is especially great to send someone you have a lot of mutual friends with.
5. "I Think You're Great, But I Don't See This Turning Into A Relationship."
The most honest thing about dating is that not all dates turn into relationships. In fact, most won't.
So if you've gone on a few dates with a guy, but you don't necessarily see him as boyfriend material, then you can let him know you think he's great, but it isn't anything serious.
From there, you can either decide to date casually, or just call it off completely, depending on what you're looking for right now.
Do you think you need to send a breakup text to someone you're not dating, or are you someone who would rather ghost instead? Maybe it's bad, but I am kind of pro-ghosting.
Let me know in the comments.