6 Signs That He's Just Not That Into You

by Paul Hudson

It can be difficult to figure out whether or not a guy really likes you. It's hard mainly because most guys are willing to tell you whatever you need to hear in order to continue having sex with you.

To make things worse, people have a way of seeing whatever it is we want to see. We ignore the things we don't want to see. In other words, you probably already know whether or not your guy is into you, but you simply want to ignore that fact. Why? Because you prefer imagining that you're being loved the way you want to be loved.

You're not alone. Everyone likes to see the world in a positive light. But the problem is that the picture you've made for yourself is going to crumble, and you're going to be left with nothing but a box full of broken crayons.

I know that it may be difficult to admit, but if you see these six signs, the fact is that he just isn't that into you.

1. He doesn't let you stay alone at his place when he goes to work in the morning.

The easiest way of telling if a guy is into you is by looking at whether or not he's willing to let you sleep in his bed when he leaves for the day. 

If a guy asks you to leave after sex, he's not into you. You may be thinking that it's OK for him not to let you sleep in his bed when he leaves for the day. But I promise you that you're wrong. 

Hell, I've let girls stay even when I wasn't super into them. It's just a friendly thing to do. I did it because I trusted them. If your guy isn't doing that, he probably doesn't trust you or like you as much as you thought. 

2. Every time he hits you up, it's for sex.

Sure, you'll go to dinner and maybe see a movie, but if you feel like he's only going through the motions so he can sleep with you, that's probably exactly what he's doing.

There are plenty of guys out there who won't even pretend like they're about anything else. So the fact that he at least tries says that he's not a horrible guy. However, just because he isn't horrible to you doesn't mean that he's into you. You both deserve better.

3. He doesn't make compromises.

When a guy is really into a woman, he makes compromises without being asked to make them. That's mainly because his goal is to make you smile, and doing what needs to be done to make that happen just doesn't feel like a compromise.

On the other hand, if you're with a guy who always needs to have his way -- he wants you to watch his TV shows, eat at his favorite restaurants, do everything he likes -- then he's probably not the one. He may like having you around, but he's not doing enough to make you feel special. And you need a man who makes you feel special.

4. It just doesn't seem like he cares.

He hears you when you talk, but he just doesn't listen. He's only half-present. He doesn't live in the moment. 

He may not be a bad guy, but you don't feel like he's a great guy. If a guy cares, believe me: You'll know it. He may have a poor way of showing how much he cares, but if you feel like he almost doesn't care at all, you're probably right.

5. He's rarely there when you need him.

He never, ever offers to help you out. If he does, it's only because he feels obligated to do so. If this is the kind of guy you're with, I'm afraid that you'd be better off finding someone else.

A romantic relationship should be the strongest kind of partnership. A partner who is never there to help you fight your battles isn't much of a partner, is he? If he were that into you, he'd be there when you needed him.

Sure, he has a lot going on in his life, and he won't be able to always drop what he's doing to run to you, but I promise you that if he were really into you, he'd make up for it.

6. Instead of lifting you up, he pushes you down.

The most amazing thing about being in love is the kind of support you receive from your partner. 

There are two types of men. There are the ones who will point out your flaws and your weaknesses. They'll you that you have "a lot to work on," and they'll make you feel bad. And then there are those men that see more in you than you see in yourself -- men who will make you feel like you can accomplish anything you want. These men can change your world for the better. The other men will make you feel small and inferior.

Never let any guy make you think that you aren't capable of accomplishing your goals; he isn't worth keeping around.