Relationships

Does He Light Your Fire? How To Answer The Burning Question

by Allison Vaughn

You're going to meet a lot of people in your life.

Some will stay, and others won't.

Some will leave a mark, and others will leave without even saying goodbye.

There is one person, though, who will always stand out, even in a crowd of familiar faces.

There is one person who, with just a single glance, can make your whole body feel as if it were jolted with electricity.

This person instantly charges you.

He or she makes you feel like you can just take his or her hand and dive into the unknown.

This person lights your fire.

He or she ignites a spark inside you that grows into a craving that must be fed.

I've been in a relationship where I was comfortable, where I loved him and he loved me.

He would come home from work, and after we ate dinner, we would relax and zombie out in front of the television.

Don't get me wrong; I was very physically attracted to him, but he never made me feel like I wanted to rip my clothes off and jump on the kitchen counter.

He never excited me to where I just couldn't resist his touch.

I wish I could say he didn’t excite me “very often” or even “rarely,” but the honest truth is, he just never did.

He wasn’t my spark.

I don't even care for watching television that much, so this everyday routine became boring rather quickly.

It was work, home, dinner, TV, vanilla, sleep, lather, rinse and repeat.

The relationship ended, and I started focusing on myself.

Then one day, I met my spark.

He made me question everything I thought I knew about sex.

I explored places I thought only existed in some far-off, erotic fantasyland.

When I was with him, I felt this energy that ran through me all the way to my core.

Your spark doesn’t have to become the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with.

In fact, you might end up not spending much time together at all.

But, the time you do spend together is so charged with energy that you sometimes feel it even when he or she is not around.

He or she helps you realize your wants and your needs.

He or she makes you picky about who you’re intimate with because after the intensity you felt together, vanilla just doesn’t taste the same, no matter how many toppings you put on it.

You’ll know when you’ve met your spark.

Maybe not instantly, but at one point, it will hit you like a ton of bricks, and you’ll never see that person in the same light again.

Don't become comfortable in the routine of a relationship, and never settle for someone who doesn't light your fire.

If you feel like something’s missing in your love life, don’t be afraid to spice things up.

If you haven't found your spark yet, then don’t worry. Your time will come.

Just remember to be bold, and don’t shy away from new adventures.

May your days be exciting and your nights be burning hot.