Why Dating Your Swolemate Can Lead To The Most Committed Relationship

by Samira Behrouzan
Bonnin Studio

There was a point in my life when I would spend my Friday nights going to a nice dinner with my boyfriend, and then we would cap off our date with a couple of hours of video games.

Then, he would forcefully wake me up at 6 am on Saturdays so we could hit the gym and he could jump into a couple of pick-up games of basketball while I lifted and worked out.

Now, I spend my Friday nights getting drunk and waking up at 8 am with a gnarly hangover that glues me to my couch for half the day and forces me to order delivery for most meals.

Although our relationship didn't work out for many reasons, I can say — without a doubt — he was the greatest thing that ever happened to me.

Through exercise, he showed me a side of myself I was unfamiliar with, and he acted as a mirror, allowing me to see myself for who I really am.

It was fitness that led to our intimacy and our understanding, and it's what ultimately strengthened our bond.

It's one thing to hit the gym on your own while other people watch you sweat and make weird faces as you lift during your last set of reps, and it's another thing to do all of this stuff in front of — and with — your partner.

So, why is your swolemate your soulmate? Let's break it down.

1. They empower you in more ways than one.

I think it's pretty safe to assume that most people who exercise care about not only how they look, but also how they feel overall.

Generally speaking, their commitment to their health would mean they lead a healthy life, so when you end up with a partner who pushes you in the gym or during any form of exercise, they're most likely going to push you in every aspect to be better and do better.

2. Your communication is on point.

When you work out with someone, you're forced to communicate. Whether it's pushing the other person to do one more set or motivating them to finish off their last mile, you're talking to one another.

You begin to create a bond, a trust. Not only do you wind up being more open with one another in general, but that communication can also help you achieve your fitness goals.

It's no secret that reaching specific goals is easier when you have someone supporting you on the sideline.

3. You bond through the ups and downs.

Whether or not you're fit as fuck, when you go to a spin class with a great instructor at Equinox or go to a sculpt class at CorePower, you're bound to face some "I can't do this" moment.

When you have someone by your side, who is willing to endure the same high's and low's with you to reach an end goal you end up building a foundation of a super strong emotional bond.

It becomes a "your struggle is my struggle" type of deal, and you learn you can get through this and reach your goals together.

4. Next-level sexual arousal

I'm no scientist, but I know working out makes you want to do the deed, and working out with your partner and watching them sweat is sexy AF.

There's something about your heart racing mixed with the shortness of breath that creates this "I have to have you right here, right now" feeling.

So, I think it's safe to say that couples who work out together, stay together (and have way better sex lives).

5. You're both on the same level when it comes to commitment.

Working out is a commitment.

If you're looking for commitment, then look no further than the person who stands next to you day in and day out pumping weight.

Someone who is active is active in every aspect of their lives, and quite frankly, that's the kind of person you want to be with.

And if you have one of these people in your life already, then let me be the 20th person to tell you that you have a keeper.

This person is a real gem, and it shows through their hard work, dedication and — you guess it — commitment.

Look, don't get me wrong; I'm not saying your soulmate can't be someone who doesn't workout or someone who doesn't work out with you.

But let's be honest: You want to be with someone who will push you to the edge because it's only when you reach the edge that your truly push your limits.