It's Worth The Fight: Why Couples Who Argue Are Actually Happier

by Gigi Engle

The strongest relationships are thick with arguments. No epic love stories were written about complacency from years of living in the doldrums of lame ass bullsh*t.

There's something to be said for dating someone whose mind is so different from yours. Because of this, you're always fighting... well, fighting or f*cking.

Fighting is the key ingredient in breeding passion. From passion comes love. Deep love. Earth-shattering, appetite-destroying, sleep-losing, skin-burning, can't-live-life-without-each-other love.

When I say "fighting," I’m not talking about full-blown physical encounters. I’m not talking about throwing plates and breaking skulls.

I’m not talking about making your partner physically bleed or fearing for your safety. I’m not describing a situation that brings the police to your house.

I simply mean "arguing": two intelligent people finding themselves in the throes of healthy debate.

Nothing is more sexually charged than a heated debate about an issue both parties are ardent about.

There is something so erotic about having a battle of minds with the man or woman you love.

Before I have to go consult my little black book so that I can stop sweating, here is why you should date someone who always argues with you. Read, fight, hump, love.

It means your love can survive anything.

If you don’t fight with your significant other, it just isn’t real love. If you can fight, you have the power to survive.

If the two of you can say whatever is on your mind, even the most vicious of arguments couldn’t tear you apart.

If you can fight, you can make it. When you stop tiptoeing, you start growing closer.

It means you respect each other’s views.

Your views on important issues may be entirely opposite, but that doesn’t mean you lack respect for each other. Mutual respect is absolutely vital to a healthy and lasting relationship.

You may vehemently disagree on certain things. But agreeing to disagree -- instead of letting those differences break you -- will bring you to a better understanding and broader horizons.

It means you aren’t afraid of one another.

If you can stand up to your partner in an argument, you're clearly not afraid of each other. You can’t have a steady partnership with someone who is complacent instead of combative.

There is a difference between having a healthy love and having one foot out the door. Arguing is a constant test of strength.

If both of you can keep up with each other, you're strong people who can handle your equally strong opinions. You're well-suited -- and well-tested.

It means your passion is incredibly visceral.

You know what fighting really means? Amazing makeup sex. If you’re in a relationship with someone who argues with you, there are bound to be many a makeup after many a fight.

Arguing is a sign of the passion that the two of you breed for each other. You wouldn’t fight if you didn't feel so strongly about things.

The tangible, fiery passion between you is positively palpable.

It means you both stand by your opinions.

If you’re arguing a lot, you’re clearly stubborn people. While stubbornness is often considered a negative quality in a relationship, it proves that you are strong-minded individuals.

It boldly illustrates the staunch beliefs that you're both ready to defend.

You justify your stance on almost everything, and your tenacity matters to you. Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean you’re ready to roll over.

It means you’ll always learn from each other.

If there is one thing I want from a partner, it's an endless treasure trove of knowledge. I want to be with someone who teaches me things, who broadens my mind.

If you’re with someone who argues with you, he or she obviously has something to teach you.

It means your relationship will never be boring.

If you fight with your partner, you can bet that your relationship is going to be anything but boring.

OK, you don’t need to be screaming at each other all the time. But healthy debate keeps you two interested. The last thing you want is to fall into the vanilla throes of mediocrity.

Keep things lively by always challenging each other. Fighting will keep you on your toes … and eventually on your back (with those toes in the air).

It means you’re comfortable with each other.

When you fight with someone, it shows how comfortable you are with that person. When you can tell your partner that you disagree -- when you can speak up and say you're pissed the f*ck off -- that's love.

You know that what you have can't be broken, so you push the boundaries and test each other. You fight only because you’re sure of each other.

You don’t have to worry about destroying your relationship, because you’re too crazy about each other to let an argument ever ruin what you have.

Essential to a real, long-lasting love is calling one another on each other’s sh*t. After all, that's just what it means to date your best friend.