10 Changes You Experience When You're In A Healthy Relationship

by Laura Wigodner

People are quick to point out the negative effects of being in a relationship.

They'll claim you lose yourself, your friends and your mind. And of course, all of this is possible when you're in the wrong type of relationship.

What people don't understand is, a healthy relationship results in little loss at all. Rather, it comes with a few positive changes over time.

Here are 10 ways a relationship can change you for the better:

You become more selfless and less selfish.

This is one of the more obvious changes in a relationship. When you're single, you're really only responsible for yourself. But when you're in a relationship, you start to care for the other person just as much as you do for yourself.

You want to go above and beyond for them, and you start to become incredibly thoughtful. You're always by their side when they're feeling down. They quickly become one of your top priorities.

You feel a little more validated.

While your love for your significant other grows exponentially in a relationship, their love for you does the same.

Of course, you already know how awesome of a person you are, but having your caring efforts appreciated by someone you love is a welcomed form of validation.

You value your friendships more.

Contrary to the popular belief people forget about their friends once they enter a relationship, a lot of people are actually more aware of their other friendships during this time.

You start to care more about devoting the proper time and attention to all of your relationships. You become more cognizant of all the good things in your life, so you don't want to lose them.

You become more motivated.

You feel more encouraged to get the mundane, daily tasks done. This is likely because your significant other can act as a personal motivator of sorts. You always have someone there to be your cheerleader.

You're more mindful of your negative habits.

You should never be with someone who wants to change who you are at heart.

However, having a significant other who wants you to be aware of anything negative or harmful you do to yourself isn't necessarily a bad thing. This helps you squash your bad habits and grow significantly in the long run.

You become a more accepting person.

When you're in a relationship, you learn to love your significant other for all of their best qualities and all of their flaws. In fact, their faults don't bother you much because they're part of the person you love.

Your appreciation for their flaws carries over to the rest of the world as well. You soon become a bit less judgmental of other people, and you're more open-minded in general because of how your perspective on others changes.

You feel happier and more positive about life.

In a relationship, your entire outlook on life drastically improves. Your relationship might not always be perfect, but the fact you have someone to love, who also loves you, can really boost your mood.

You develop extreme determination.

Since all relationships have rough patches, you constantly have to compromise and communicate.

When you care about someone, you grow more and more determined to power through the hardships for what you're confident will be a positive outcome.

You radiate love to strangers.

You give off a radiating glow when you're in a relationship. A perfect stranger can tell how happy you are, and they'll probably get the vibe that you're a friendly, loving person.

Even though your deepest love is essentially reserved for your significant other, you'll feel like you have a lot of extra love to spread around.

You feel more independent, despite being part of a couple.

A common misconception about relationships is, you lose your sense of self because you're too focused on “becoming one” with the other person. In reality, you might feel more like your own person than ever before.

You know you can count on your significant other to help you through hard times, but you also realize that, at the end of the day, you are ultimately responsible for yourself and your emotions.