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This Soldier Was Ghosted After Coming Home From Deployment


Ah, ghosting. It's the dating phenomenon that happens when people are too cowardly to actually end things with the people they've been seeing, so they choose to just… disappear instead.

Ghosters are idiots. But if you've ever been ghosted, know that you're not alone.

In this weekly column, I share a tale of a time a reader was ghosted (with accompanying screenshots) so you can see the last text that was sent or words that were uttered before someone decided to disappear forever. I present to you: Boom, Ghosted.

This week we have Jackie*, a soldier who was ghosted by the guy she loved. Read her story for yourself here:


For the first time ever, I think I can say I sort of understand where the guy who ghosted her was coming from. I don't excuse his actions AT ALL, but I understand them.

He met someone. Because of that, he was too big of a coward to bring himself to end things with her when he knew how much she meant to him. Again, I don't condone his actions at all. But I think I understand where he was coming from.

That being said, I think the amount of heartbreak she felt after he ghosted her is probably a million times worse than what she would have felt had he just ripped the Band-Aid and told her he met someone else while she was deployed.

Furthermore, I see literally no excuse for just completely ignoring her text saying she was back home. She says it herself, they were friends first. How could you treat your friend like that?

What do you guys think? Comment any and all of your thoughts below.

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*Name has been changed.