This week we have Brittany*. She was ghosted by the guy she was seeing because she was on her period, and as a result, couldn't hook up:
I met a guy from Bumble — cute, smart, great personality, looking for a relationship and we had this insane chemistry. Ticked all the boxes. We just grabbed drinks on our first date, but he kept telling me how shy of a guy he normally was. He didn't usually go up to women in bars or even pursue via apps. Just terrible at picking girls up. I told him I wasn't going to be the one to make the first move so he mustered all his aggression and kissed me in the bar (his first time kissing ANYONE in a bar). Fireworks, sirens, the whole nine yards. We both felt it and were both excited we met each other. After dinner on our third date, we went back to his place to watch an episode of 'Black Mirror' on Netflix (a show we bonded over). After the episode was done, things started to get a little hot and heavy... clothes started to come off before I realized I was on my period. I pulled away and said it wasn't going to happen tonight and he FLIPPED OUT. At first, I thought he was angry but, no... he was embarrassed. He went on a mini rant about how he doesn't just get naked in front of random people, he thought I really liked him and wanted to be with him, he was SO embarrassed that I put him in this situation, etc. I was dumbfounded. I have never gotten that kind of reaction to being on my period. He could not have scooted me out of his apartment faster, despite my sincerest apologies for having embarrassed him. Didn't walk me to my car or anything. He DID text me when I got home to make sure I got back safely.
I thought there was some light at the end of the tunnel here, so we said goodnight. I didn't hear from him.
I sent him a waving bear GIF a few days later to see if we could open the lines of communication again. No response. Another few days went by, and I texted him saying, 'It's a shame to miss out on something good because of a misunderstanding.'
Still no response. I'm still confused.
Trust me, Brittany, you are not the only one who is confused here... this guy is a weirdo.
What was the point of reaching out to make sure you got home safe if he wasn't planning on EVER speaking to you again?! Makes no sense.
But let's focus on the bigger issue here: the period problem. The fact that this guy was THIS disturbed by you having your period is absolutely insane to me.
YOU got YOUR period, and it embarrassed HIM?! What kind of sick, warped universe are we living in?! Good luck to this guy finding a girl who doesn't menstruate. Maybe he'll be better off dipping his feet in the 50+ pool.
What do you guys think of all this? Was this guy as out of line as I think he is? Do you see where he was coming from? Is there any way we can possibly understand how she would have put him on the spot? If you get it, please, ENLIGHTEN ME.
Have you ever been in the same position as Brittany? I want to hear about it!
As always, if you have your own submission for “Boom, Ghosted,” please feel free to send it over to me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
*Name has been changed.