Kylah Benes-Trapp

This 'Free Spirit' Was Ghosted By A Guy After Having Sex With Him


Ah, ghosting. It's the dating phenomenon that happens when people are too cowardly to actually end things with the people they've been seeing, so they choose to just… disappear instead.

Ghosters are idiots. But if you've ever been ghosted, know that you're not alone.

In this weekly column, I share a tale of a time a reader was ghosted (with accompanying screenshots) so you can see the last text that was sent or words that were uttered before someone decided to disappear forever. I present to you: Boom, Ghosted.

This week, we have Sarah*, who experienced firsthand what I think most of us consider to be a dating nightmare: She was ghosted by a guy after finally deciding to have sex with him.

Read the story in Sarah's words here:


So, what do you guys think? Sarah asked in the passage if we think it was a mistake for her to have gone home with him that night.

Personally, I don't think so. I think this guy was a total dingus. Also, I think you should never expect to be ghosted for going home with someone at the "wrong" time.

In fact, there is no "wrong" time, as far as I'm concerned.

I know having sex with a person and never speaking to them again is a "thing." But I never really understood it.

Like, if someone knows they can have sex with you, why would they just not take advantage of the situation? What's the point of not talking to someone you are clearly attracted to and who is willing to have sex with you? If you understand this, please explain.

But what do you guys think of the whole situation? Do you think this whole thing is totally out of the blue and bizarre as I do?

Maybe you've gone through something similar to this. If so, I'd love to hear about it!

I'm sure Sarah would, too. It's always nice to know you're not alone in this sort of thing.

As always, feel free to make your own submissions to Boom, Ghosted here.

*Name has been changed.