Here's Why Being Clingy Is the Worst Mistake You Can Make in A Relationship

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Everyone knows a person who can't stand to be away from their partner.

Maybe that person is you, maybe it's your friend or maybe it's your SO and you hate it it. There are many reasons why people feel it's necessary to be clingy. but being too clingy is never, ever OK.

You should avoid showing your clingy side at all cost.

1. Your SO could get tired of you.

It depends what your relationship is like. If you're "kind of" in a relationship, you don't want to be that person who's clinging onto that person who really doesn't want much to do with you.

Trust me, it's more likely you're going to push them away rather than attract them.

Independence is attractive. People love other people who can share time with them but not have to be together all the time.

If you're already in a relationship, clinginess might create jealousy issues, which usually pushes people away.

The only possible exception is if your SO is in the small percentage of people who love when their partner is jealous and needy.

2. You forget about your mental space.

When you're clingy, you tend to forget about yourself and your necessary mental space. You need to focus on your own studies, hobbies or activities.

Being clingy focuses most of your attention on your SO and you forget about self-care.

Being away from one another is good, even if it means not constantly looking down at your phone to text them. It becomes confusing when you spend so much time with someone and forget what you believe in.

The time away from them provides more “me time” for yourself.

3. You become known as "that person."

You will not only become known as clingy to your SO, but your friends will know you as the clingy person as well.

The clinginess that you exhibit in your relationships can transfer to your friendships. Being the person who's always begging for love and attention might become annoying to your friends as well.

It's always nice to hit your friends up whenever you miss them, but do it every day and it becomes more of a chore for your friends.

4. You might forget your friends.


Speaking of how clinginess affects friendships, it becomes difficult to balance the relationship and your friendships if you always want to be with your SO.

It's really important to remember that although your SO might be the priority, your friends were there first and will most likely be there if you ever break up.

Don't let your desire for attention take away the appreciation you have for your friends.

5. You're doing all the work.

Although some people are constantly stressing the fact that you should never be the one to text first, being clingy forces you to be the only one doing all the work.

You're always planning dates, always texting first, always working to better the relationship while at the same time trying to live your own life.

Don't let being clingy make you be the only one who is fully invested in a relationship.

Avoid this situation by keeping yourself in mind and knowing you deserve someone who is going to put in the same amount of work that you are.

6. It makes you depend on other people for your happiness.

Being clingy is one of the hardest qualities to deal with because not everyone has the same preference for clinginess in their SO.

Sure, some people might find it cute you want to spend every waking hour with them and talking to them, but in reality you might be hurting yourself more than you know.

Being clingy makes you more dependent on someone, making it harder to break away from them. You don't want to attribute your happiness to one person (unless, of course, that person is yourself).

One of the most difficult things to work on is being less clingy, especially if you are already an extremely clingy person. While some people may think it's OK to be clingy, you may be damaging yourself and your relationship more than you know.

One of the most important things to do when it comes to this point is to just communicate with your partner and know what bothers them and what doesn't.

You want to make sure you're on the same page -- because things could get ugly.