Girls can definitely be hard to read. And honestly, we wouldn’t have it any other way. It’s all part of the chase, and the chase is something both men and women live for.
Many girls are selective and don’t simply give it all away for free. We want to get a good idea of what you are like, and we determine that by observing your actions and what you say…not just your sexy AF looks.
We know that just because we like what we see on the outside, doesn’t mean we’ll be attracted to the rest of you.
Girls are masters at the game, and we want you to work for our interest. We may play a little hard to get while we’re getting a good sense of the real you. So know this, guys: Nothing special ever comes easy. Exceptional girls require (and deserve) exceptional work to win them over. If "exceptional" were easy to come by, everyone would win first place.
So if you want to meet that someone special, you have to get it together. Get your head in the game…and you’ll come out winning in the end.
Attraction is a delicate approval of several qualities that girls observe when checking you out. If we seem interested, we must like what we see on the outside.
Obviously, there are many things girls dig in a guy that are beneath the surface as well that can’t be seen at first glance:
Is he a complete tool?
Is he loyal, or is he a cheat?
Does he have ambition, or is he a couch potato shotgunning beer on the reg?
Aside from NOT doing the above things, there are some simple things you can do to make an awesome first impression. Once you’ve caught her eye, this list will help you become aware of other qualities we look for so you don’t screw the rest up.
1. Don't flaunt how "well-off" you are.
Unless she’s a gold digger, she will not -- I repeat, WILL NOT -- want you to whip out your wallet to show off your bankroll or wave your Rolex in her face.
Braggy behavior like this screams "complete and utter douchebag," and she will certainly not find you even the least bit attractive.
There’s something sexy about a guy who is modest about his achievements. Feeling the need to flaunt your status and income when meeting a girl does not make for a great impression. It will actually send her sprinting for the hills.
I can’t stress this enough… DON'T be that guy!
2. Keep your eyes on your date.
There’s nothing more insulting or annoying than a guy with a wandering eye. If your gaze keeps straying away from your date when you’re supposed to be trying to get to know her, you won’t get very far.
She wants to feel like you’re genuinely interested in her…not in another girl’s booty across the room. She will notice that really fast. And once she catches on, it’s your ass that’ll be getting the boot.
3. Show off a genuine, sexy smile.
This may sound cliche, but a great smile could make or break it with a girl. A great sense of humor and handsome smile are both warm and inviting. But it should be natural, so definitely don’t force it.
Put on the best smile you’ve got, and use your good wit.
4. Dress to impress.
She wants to know you’ve accomplished something in your life, or at least have a good sense of where you want to be, without you being super braggy.
A good-fitting pair of jeans, crisp button-down and nice shoes also go a long way. Baggy sweatpants hanging below your boxers? Not so much.
It’s so true that you only get one chance to make a great first impression. What you’re wearing tells a lot about how you want to present yourself to the world. So dress to impress, and don’t take any shortcuts.
5. Keep your boys in check.
Your friends are a reflection of who you are. If she likes the friends you’re with, that’s a great sign of the choices you make.
If your buds constantly brag about how many chicks they're taking home tonight, she may assume you're just like them.
If your friends crush it with their personalities, there's a good chance she will like the entire picture. Things will be looking good.
6. Show off your good personality.
Rise to the occasion, and be the best version of yourself. Keep the convo light, fun and entertaining…no complaining about weird ex baggage.
Now is your best time to really stun her and shine.
She wants to know your interests besides drinking and picking up girls, so definitely let her know some of your hobbies. Let things roll, see what the night brings and be positive.
7. Be confident, but not cocky.
Confidence is a super sexy trait to have. A confident man is a lucky man who will definitely get far with the ladies.
Cockiness will get you nowhere, no matter how hot you are. No one likes a pompous ass…and we definitely don’t want to date one.
8. Show us your sensitive side.
She will want to know you’re a genuinely good guy. Not only will she pay attention to how you speak to her, but she will also watch how you speak and interact with others.
It should be obvious that you are interested in learning more about her. Even if it’s simply asking about her day, it shows that you care…and this will score you major points in her book.
There really is nothing hotter than showing a girl you want to get to know her. If you constantly talk about yourself without letting her get a word in, she’ll be on to the next dude in a heartbeat.
9. Keep the convo flowing.
This should be an easy one.
If things unfold naturally, you’ll end up talking to her the entire night…and enjoying every second of it.
If you’re fighting to keep the convo alive, it’s not happening. Face reality, and move on!
10. Show us your mind.
She wants to know you’re smart. A smart guy is really attractive.
Showing her you’re smart is quite different from being a wise-ass (MAJOR turn-off).
Be witty, not a jerk.
11. Don’t try too hard.
When all is said and done, just be yourself.
Approach her knowing that the attraction has to be mutual. If the girl is not instantly feeling it, then it’s not really worth the effort to pursue anything further.
It’s a bummer, but you just have to deal.
Don’t get too caught up in the steps, but keep them in the back of your mind as you try to win her attention.