8 Awkward Questions You Must Ask Your Fiancé That Could End Your Engagement
Do you think you and your boy toy have chatted about it all? Do you think you've figured out who is going to take out the trash, and who gets the TV on Sunday nights when both football and "The Real Housewives" are on?
Well, even if you think you've covered all your bases and know every single thing about each other, it's only right that you take a step back and make sure you've truly had some of the more awkward, hard-hitting convos we often tiptoe around or avoid altogether when we start dating.
So, if you're about to say "I do" and commit to spending the rest of your life with the person you love, make sure you ask them these eight questions before sliding on the ring and agreeing to spend forever by their side.
1. “Will you love me when I look like this?”
There are tons of apps and filters that can distort your face to show what you'll look like when you're 87. Show that to your guy. See if his face cringes and if he asks you to never show them the picture again.
I hate to break it to you and your boo, but you won't look like this forever. Wrinkles happen, so does gray hair, saggy body parts and super slow metabolisms that take your rock hard abs and turn them into a mushy gut.
Love shouldn't be blind to these changes. Does your guy still want in when you don't look young, wild and free of anti-aging creams?
2. “Are you going to change diapers?”
Sorry if this is gross, but those diapers may be the ones of your future children, and they may even be your own (old people issues).
Is he averse to touching poop? If so, he may not even be cool with scooping up your dogs' business when he takes it on a walk. Nobody is eager to agree to taking on this task, but as long as they are open to it, you can be open to a future with them.
3. “What's yours is mine, right?”
We're talking cash here. Cold, hard cash. Money is always an awkward thing to chat about, but you both need to know how much cash you have in the bank, how much money you owe to your credit card companies and how much money you still have to pay in order to be free of your student loan debt.
Break all of this down for each other, and then allow yourselves to get a massive stress headache by talking about having a joint savings and checking account together.
4. “What's the biggest thing you've lied about so far?”
What we don't know doesn't hurt us, right? Well, not when we are about to spend the rest of our lives with someone. It's time for the truth to come out.
Maybe their biggest lie is about reading through your text messages while you're in the shower, or maybe it's that they had a one-night stand on that trip to Vegas they took during the first month you dated. Either way, you need to know.
5. “Are we going to have kids?”
Talk this one out. If you get married without ever discussing this life-changing topics, things might get awkward when one of you starts to say they want a baby ASAP.
You need to be on the same page with this, and even if you're both not 100 percent sure, that's OK too. As long as it is something you can talk openly about without any rage or anger.
6. “Where are we going to settle down?”
While that 400-feet studio apartment in the heart of the city seems super rad right now, you'll outgrow it almost as fast as you walk down the aisle. Have a chat about where you see yourself buying a house one day. If one of you wants the Jersey suburbs and the other wants an apartment on the beach in Cali, this is something that should be hashed out now.
7. “Are you OK with never sleeping with anyone else again?”
Deep down, the truth is, no. He will not be OK with this. But make it crystal clear that you'll walk away if he ever cheats. You need to let him know that if he proposes and you say "I do," that means you're the only person he can do.
8. “Will you be a stay-at-home dad?”
More and more women are taking on amazing careers that make them the primary dough winner, and their husbands are becoming stay-at-home dads raising the children. Make sure he's OK with the role reversal. And if he's not, remind him it's 2016 and women can be anything they want – even President of the United States.
While asking these questions may induce a bit of an anxiety attack and their answers may be enough to give you some cold feet, it's important to know where they stand on the important (and the awkward) stuff. So, do it before it's too late. Otherwise you'll find yourself spending thousands of dollars on marriage counseling, where you're admitting these awkward things to a complete and total stranger.