Straight people have a lot of awkward questions for the LGBTQ community. How do you have sex? Do you own a strap on? Who's the dude in the bedroom? And (my personal favorite) what kind of junk are you packing in the front trunk?
To the cisgender, heterosexual human these would be ridiculous questions to ask. But, for my fellow queer friends, these questions come up on the daily.
I'm not sure why people feel it's OK to ask about a person's sex life, but it seems to widely be considered as socially acceptable behavior -- so long as the person in question is gay and/or looks “different.”
I once had an Uber driver awkwardly ask me if I still "liked the dick" in front of my girlfriend because he thought me identifying as bisexual meant I wanted to sleep with him. I gave him two stars for the balls it took for him to ask that question.
I've had female-to-male trans friends get stopped on the street by strangers who want to know if they have a penis and (if so) how big it is. And it's not just straight people asking these questions, sometimes the curiosity comes from within the queer community.
Don't get me wrong, it's great that people are curious and want to know more about LGBTQ individuals. I happily embrace any straight or just plain curious person who genuinely wants to learn about queer culture and sexuality.
But here's a little advice for the curious folks out there: be polite. Don't ask anything you wouldn't mind answering yourself. And if you're not sure whether you're being rude by asking a question, follow the old adage your mama taught you: If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.
For more insight on queer sexuality, check out this video. Or, just Google it.