7 By-The-Book Reasons Writers Make The Best Partners And Lovers

by Shana Antoine

There has always been some sort of stigma associated with being a writer. They are mentally unstable, depressed and heavy substance abusers.

It’s natural for people to think that way when they choose to use the Sylvia Plaths, Edgar Allen Poes and Virginia Woolfs as reference points (all of whom were phenomenal writers, but yes, arguably insane.)

What people often fail to realize is how much writers actually have to offer aside from their stories, fiction, nonfiction, poetry or otherwise. That, and they make some of the best partners in relationships. Here's why:

1. They’re always down for an adventure.

Writers are always looking for inspiration in the strangest of places. He’s not just looking in the stereotypical café down the block; she doesn’t always find it while gazing at the ocean.

They search for that inspiration in every crack and corner of their homes and yours, every movie script, every song, every passerby and the list goes on.

Usually it hits out of nowhere, but often (especially when a deadline of some sort must be met), writers obsess over finding it.

That being said, a writer may be swayed to try something out of the norm that may awaken that muse.

A spontaneous road trip outside of state? Mountain climbing? Getting inked? Roleplay?

You name it. A writer doesn’t mind jumping out of his or her comfort zone if it means there will be a story to tell.

And who’s to say you have to go anywhere or spend money?

This person will take you on an adventure daily without even having to leave home.

Cuddling up on the couch with nothing but each other’s company and a night of brain-picking (or Netflix) would be just as entertaining.

Writers are low-key and can do without constant social interaction.

2. They understand the need for personal space.

Writers recognize the importance of solitude and quiet. There’s no need to worry about this person being too clingy or attached; writers have their own agendas.

She won’t distract you from your work and your hobbies because she’d appreciate it if you gave her the same respect. And, he won't complain when you’re in need of a girls’ night out.

Instead, he’ll be elated by the opportunity to let his mind wander in peace.

Sitting alone in silence with a writer is never awkward. They’re usually the ones to break that silence anyway when one of those outlandish ideas to which you've become oh-so-accustomed flicks a light in their minds.

3. They’re creative.

Resourcefulness is a quality that most writers possess. They can make something from nothing — that’s what they do for a living.

A writer can transform the most mundane of activities (like standing by a tree for 128 pages as Vladimir and Estragon did in Samuel Beckett’s "Waiting for Godot") into something thrilling.

This can come in handy in any relationship. Being stuck on the side of the road with a dead car battery can be transformed into being stranded on a deserted island where there are no others signs of human life.

Need an excuse to bail out on a night out with the coworkers? Do not fret!

You have a natural-born storyteller on your hands! Writers have viable, quickly thought out alibis waiting right there for ya.

4. There’s so much depth to them.

If you’re looking for someone who has more to talk about than the latest episode of "The Bachelor," or how insane that booty was, then a writer’s the one for you.

Writers are complex characters who have an insatiable thirst for knowledge.

This kind of person is able to hold conversations centering on a vast variety of topics. More important than that, they challenge you.

Writers are visionaries, constantly looking at the what ifs. They unlock the doors to worlds never before imagined, and challenge you to look at everything from unique perspectives.

5. They understand that communication is key.

One of the most grueling tasks of writing is detailing elements of style, characterization, dialogue and scene in a way that readers can understand.

A writer’s job is to communicate effectively with his or her audience, otherwise the message falls through and you end up with 20 some odd pages of complete crap.

Communication is the most crucial component of a relationship, and writers understand that. Because they’re quite skilled when it comes to their own writing, you never have to worry about what they are trying to say.

Writers are clear and honest, and this makes them so much easier to trust. She has no problem telling you what’s bothering her, and he’ll have no issue praising you for the little things.

You rarely have to wonder what’s on their minds because they’re open books anyway (*bad um tss*).

6. Money ain’t a thang.

As most of us know, writers aren’t usually the biggest moneymakers. Sure, there’s a chance they end up writing the next bestseller and make millions, but the odds aren’t always in their favor.

Writers understand that there’s more to life than the material things.

They choose this path for themselves, regardless of the possibility of living in a cardboard box. They write because they love to, not because they have to. This is true for everything they do in a relationship.

If you ever date a writer, you know he or she did not seek you out because of the career path you chose nor the riches you’ll someday accumulate.

Chances are, he or she fell for something deep inside of you, something you may be unaware of yourself. Leave it to the writers to unmask that hidden truth.

And, if he or she ever does land it big, you won’t have to question whether or not he or she will remain true to him or herself and to you. It's unquestionable.

7. They’re passionate.

As both a writer and a lover, expect someone who will always keep you on your toes for the duration of the relationship. Writers have a way with words, and you’ll experience this firsthand.

They will find a million ways to express how much they care. Not only are they passionate about writing, they’re passionate about you, too! They’re also passionate in bed, but I’ll spare you the details (for once).

Writers see the beauty in everything, you included. Just as some of the characters in our tales, writers recognize that no one is perfect. They welcome in those imperfections with open arms.

Every cloud has a silver lining, and these people will remind you of that each and every day. Writers are used to rejection and get criticized daily; someone needs to remind you that it’s not the end of the world and writers will happily volunteer for the job.

Writing allows writers to feel love, and this radiates into everything they do. They make some of the best lovers because of their ability to feel deeply and the craving to share those feelings.

It’s one thing to fall in love with a reader and another to go for those capable of crafting those stories and sentiments with their own fingertips.

Writers typically come across as quiet and reserved, but as the saying goes, never judge a book by its cover.

And hey, if it doesn’t work out, I guarantee you’ll have quite a tale of your own to share.