6 Kinds Of Sex You Have When You're In A Committed Relationship
Sex is such a diverse thing; there’s no right way to have it and no one way that everyone is doing it.
It’s different every time you partake, and I think that’s what’s so wonderful about it.
Even when you’re in a relationship, the sex is not the same all the time.
Even if you’re with someone forever, the sex doesn’t stay the same.
It grows and changes along with your relationship and you. It surprises you with something new around every corner.
While there are probably a billion ways to have sex, here are six different ways you have sex when you have the same partner for a long time:
1. Like you’ve never had sex before.
And of course, at first, you haven’t. Not with this new person, in this new way. There’s a time when it’s so new, it’s pretty much the most incredible thing in the entire world.
It’s not just the first time it happens either; the first few — the first dozen times even — times are awe-inspiring.
For a brief period of time, it’s like this is the first naked body you’ve ever seen and my God, is it glorious.
You discover something new around every curve, in every shadow cast on skin, and nothing has ever been more fulfilling.
2. You plan to, and then you don’t.
Maybe it’s the last night you can spend together for a little while or maybe, it’s the first time in forever.
Regardless, it’s a special night, and so you make it that way.
You go to dinner, you go out, you talk forever, you throw all of your energy into the night and you couldn’t be happier about it.
When you get home, you’re exhausted, and you lie next to each other, contemplating having sex.
Maybe you’re basically in a food coma or maybe you’re so tired you can barely keep your eyes open. Probably both.
You fall asleep draped over each other, fully clothed and happier than you’ve ever been. You wake up the same way.
Not having sex has never felt so good.
3. With passion that you’d forgotten.
The sex isn’t always the best thing you’ve ever had. Sometimes it’s just okay. You fall into a rut, having the same kind of sex in the same kind of way.
Then one day, completely by accident, you find the passion again.
You’re doing something silly or something that brings you closer, and suddenly without warning, you start having sex.
Then that suddenness, silliness and closeness jumpstarts the passion and reminds you, “Oh, hey. Here I am.”
You didn’t even realize it was gone; you’d simply forgotten that that level of passion can exist.
It always finds its way back, though. If the relationship is working, something always brings it back.
4. Lazily, over a long stretch of time.
Sometimes, there just isn’t any rush. You’re going to be together all night, all day and neither of you has any desire to be anywhere else.
Fingers linger a little longer. Movements become a little slower. There’s nothing frantic about this.
You know you can have it all for hours, and so you do, with breaks for food and naps and lazy, sleepy talking.
There are some days where you just want to stay in bed all day with the person you’re into, and so you do.
You’ll never regret all of the things you didn’t do that day. It was so worth it.
5. Quickly, before work.
One person is completely dressed and ready, and then, all at once, he or she isn't again.
He or she was headed toward the door, and you kissed and suddenly, you’ve both regressed immensely in the whole getting dressed process.
It might make you late or it might mean you won’t have time for breakfast, but it’s worth it anyway — even if it’s quick. It just felt right.
You can always blame being late on the subway — that’s what public transportation and traffic are there for, after all.
6. Not because you need to, but just because you can.
You have sex because the other person is there and always willing. You have sex not because you’re craving it or haven’t had it in forever.
Maybe you just had it earlier that day, but you don’t need it.
Sometimes though, you initiate it just because you can, because you know there was a time when you didn’t have someone you could be close to like that whenever you wanted.
You want to cherish what you have now: amazing, mind blowing, sometimes underwhelming, not always satisfying, occasionally messy, incredible, how-did-I-ever-live-without-this-before sex.
You don’t need to have sex, but you can have sex and you want to have sex. And that is the best kind there is.