You may say you're ready to love someone, but your actions speak louder than your words.
Being ready for love isn't about creating an OkCupid profile or finally taking the time to shave your cha-cha carefully.
It's not about clearing the space in your closet to attract a partner or changing your hairstyle.
By doing these things as preparation for love, you are demonstrating that you may be ready to ACCEPT love instead of give it.
You need to be ready to accept love and to give love in order to find what you are looking for. Being ready to give love is a process in itself. How do you know when you are ready?
1. You look at a person for what you can love about him or her instead of picking apart why he or she is unworthy.
You stop worrying about that outdated jacket he always wears and focus more on the way he always remembers the little things about you.
You don't ditch her when you find out she does not have a degree. Instead, you text her a sweet message when she changes her plans to spend time with you.
2. You are willing to love someone when you cannot get close to him or her.
Kids get in the way, so does distance and time. You may even have goals that do not align at the moment.
No matter what may pop up in life, you are willing to love someone, even at a distance.
3. You are okay with the frustration of being misunderstood and taken for granted sometimes.
Love doesn't always feel good. When people act like, well, people, you understand those are experiences every human goes through and it is merely the flipside of love.
4. You feel stupid.
You feel stupid for sharing your real feelings, stupid for letting someone invade your mind and stupid for giving love another chance. And, you are okay with this feeling.
5. You stop wondering what someone else can add to your life.
Most people can fend for themselves, so it is very easy to give up. Why put up with someone who isn't perfect when you have yourself?
When you are ready to love someone, you think more about what you can add to his or her life than what he or she can give you or do for you.
6. You want to give love the right way.
You understand that being able to love a person is about figuring out how to love another person the way he or she needs to be loved.
This post first appeared on My Savvy Sisters, the leading empowerment blog for women.