As the saying goes, "good things happen to those who wait." However, I choose to believe that good things happen to those who want something so bad they can't sit still.
Whatever your circumstances may be, you have the power to determine your own fate. There are two types of people in this world: Those who sit back and wait for life to adjust to their needs, and those who get up and do something about it. Who says you can't have it all?
When I was younger, almost all of my friends were in serious long-term relationships. I thought for sure that they would end up together in the long run. Now that I'm 28, I realize the relationships I witnessed when I was younger were just time passing by.
After all, how do you know what you want when you're in high school or even college? You're too young to understand life and to want to put that person before yourself. What most people don't realize is that you're not really in love unless you do put that person before yourself. This theory took me 26 years to understand.
I'm not sure if I believe in the word "soulmate," solely because there are too many people on the planet and you may never meet the one person who could potentially be your soulmate.
However, you can always grow to love someone based on their behavior, traits and most importantly, the way they make you feel.
Here are five signs that you've found your forever person:
1. You feel at home when you're together.
This may be complicated to understand, but bear with me. Have you ever had the feeling that when you're with your SO, there's no other place you'd rather be? You had an awful day and all you want to do is come home to them and forget about it.
They don't even have to say anything to you. Just knowing that they're there, present in the same room as you, makes everything better. All your worries go away because that person is your home. They are the sole person who can make you feel better by not even saying a word.
2. You're not afraid to be yourself.
How many of us have had a moment of absolute panic where we acted like an absolute psychopath for the dumbest reason?
I know I'm not alone when I say I have because many of my friends have been in this position where they're labeled as "crazy" for speaking their mind. And maybe for taking the convo a little out of hand with their volume and tone... but doesn't everyone?
I'm not saying that it's OK to do this, but let's say you have a moment of panic and for whatever reason you choose to freak out. You do this because you're so comfortable with your partner that you know you have nothing to worry about.
They understand your meltdown because they're choosing to put up with you. Now, don't go freaking out all the time, but understand that this can actually make you closer as a couple. The fact that your partner gets you and doesn't judge you is a major sign that you've found a partner in life.
3. They reassure you that you're the only person for them.
This one has many steps: speaking of the future, planning trips together, having your families meet, moving in together and merging finances.
There is no timeline for any of these things to happen or in any specific order, but the progress shows that your partner is serious and you have nothing to worry about. By taking these steps you know your relationship is progressing and you're not wasting your time.
4. They never make you feel unsure.
My parents have been married for almost 37 years and my mom always tells me the reason why her marriage is so strong is because my dad never once made her feel insecure about their relationship.
One of the best ways to know someone is in it for eternity is when they always communicate with you and never allow you to question what they're doing. By keeping in constant contact, you never have time to worry or question where you stand with someone.
5. They are the first person you go to for advice.
If your SO is the first person you go to for advice, it's a pretty sure sign that they're your forever person. This person quickly becomes your best friend in every way possible.
They're the ones you go to with questions and concerns. You value their opinion, you listen to their advice and you take it. They have a way of comforting you so that you know you're their first priority.