The Age Old Question For Women: Is It Better To Be A Slut Or A Tease?

by Lauren Martin

If you go home with him and don't do anything, you're a prude. If you go home with him and give him what he wants, you're a whore. So which is the lesser of the two evils? Neither gets respect and both give you a reputation. It's the catch 22 that every girl wrestles with from the day she hits adolescence.

Since we were old enough to start getting attention from the male species, we slowly started realizing that being a woman is a losing game. Men will woo you until they get you in bed, then before you know it you hear that girls around school are calling you the 's' word and a small bitterness forms and the first real pangs of regret are felt.

Men don't understand how hard it is to be a woman. Unlike our male counterparts, we have to keep a level of standards regarding sex. Men are the dominate species solely because they are allowed to do whatever they want without judgement being passed. They have sex because it feels good and that's enough. But women must constantly choose between two wrong choices.

If you ask any guy this age old question, he will take about thirty seconds to respond and then say: "slut, but not if you're trying to marry her." Okay, then if that's the answer then no girl is ever going to sleep with you again. Why would a woman sleep with you if you don't respect her?

Men don't know what they want. They want to have sex, but they don't want to marry a whore. They don't understand that they are creating impossible standards. They don't want to talk to us if we aren't going to put out, but they won't talk to us after we do. So what's a woman to do?

There is no answer to this question. It all boils down to being who you are and representing yourself. If you are going to be a slut then admit it. Be that person. Don't let anyone tell you that it's wrong, because it's not. If men can have casual sex, then why can't women? As long as she uses protection, there is no reason a woman should deny herself what she wants.

And if you realize you get that sick feeling after sleeping with a guy, then be a prude. And rock it. Be that virgin girl who is happy to wait for her husband. Men do enough sh*t to women, so blue balls is just another way for women to get back at them. (If blue balls are even real, which is still in debate).

Don't act like something you're not. At the end of the day, be who you are. Pretending to be something you are is worse than having a bad reputation. Because, at the end of the day, women will always have a bad reputation, so it's really just about what feels right for you. And that differs for every woman.

As women, we must learn to stick together and not judge each other so harshly. Just because your friend has a slew of one-night stands doesn't mean she's not a good person. And if your other friend is constantly bringing guys back to just make out, don't assume she's a church-going daddy's girl.

I wish there was a definitive answer to this paradox, but I would be lying if I just picked one. Because even though I know how I feel about the situation, it doesn't mean my choice is the right one. I know that just like everything else in this world, the answer always comes from your gut, from doing what feels right. Once you stop caring what people think, and just do what feels right and makes you happy, you will finally be free.

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