You Got What I Need: 10 Signs You Have The Perfect Best Friend
"The more, the merrier" tends to be true when it comes to things like episodes of "Orange Is The New Black," or glasses of wine. But when it comes to friends, I believe if you have one good friend, you can get through anything.
After having my heart broken (stomped on, then set on fire is actually how I'd describe the pain) on the other side of the world, I found myself alone and helpless. A few hours later, I was on a flight home from Thailand to see the people who loved me.
My heart had been broken into a thousand teeny tiny pieces, but my best friend was there to help glue them back together, as always. In the midst of heartbreak, having lost the one you love can feel like the end of the world, but when you have the support of a best friend, nothing is irreparable.
Best friends hold a special place in our hearts. After the breakups, the divorces and the abandonments, friends are the ones who help us get us back on our feet. They're the ones worth sticking around for.
If you have a friendship that mirrors the list below, count yourself lucky, and never let that person go:
1. No matter how long you spend apart, nothing changes.
I've spent almost the last two years of my life traveling and working between different countries, and regrettably, I haven't kept in contact with friends as much as I should have.
But when your friendship can survive without seeing each other a few times a week and without speaking everyday, you know it's real. You see them again, and it's like you never left.
2. They are there at the drop of a hat when you need to be rescued.
Whether you find yourself locked up in jail, or whether you're on a date that's about as fun as being locked up in jail, she's there to bail you out.
But when life really f*cks you over, she's there to bail you out from your heartbreak.
As soon as she got the call I was heartbroken and alone, she dropped all of her plans to pick me up in the middle of the night, as soon as I landed back in England.
But offering to drive me home from the airport was the next best (and legal) thing she could do.
3. A good friend won't let you suffer alone.
In your time of crisis, they spend every waking moment with you, just so you don't feel alone.
Whether you're dancing the night away at a bar, crying into your McDonald's on the way home or just sitting on the sofa, they're there.
4. They defend you behind your back.
A good friend will tell you when she's heard people talking sh*t about you. A best friend will tell them where to shove it.
Even if you did make a silly mistake, they'll protect you, even when you aren't there because they know you'd do the same for them.
5. You feel comfortable climbing into their bed at 3 am for a spoon.
She's the person you can call when you're having a breakdown in the middle of the night, and you know she'll invite you over.
Having spent the last six months of my life living with someone and sharing a bed, I felt a little lost climbing back into my double at my parents' house. In my time of need, she let me share her bed for two weeks, just so I wouldn't feel alone.
6. You don't love the same stuff, but you both compromise.
She wants to see some weird British title at the cinema, you want to see a rom-com.
So, you compromise and see both — in one night.
7. You hate all the same people.
“That girl, Claire, from college, I can't stand her!”
“Yeah, me too. "
Why? The answer makes no difference. Even if it's just because you hate them, she hates them too.
On a slightly more severe level, if it's a boy who's done you wrong, she would go to prison just to see him suffer. And if that doesn't happen, she'll definitely tell him off the next time she sees him.
8. They will stop at nothing to make you smile, especially when you really don't feel like smiling.
When you're having your pity party in your bedroom for whatever reason, and you haven't left the safety of those four walls in a few days, she'll turn up at your house and physically drag you out of your slump.
She will make you smile again, even if it involves her reminding you of her previous failures, just so you can have a good laugh about how useless the pair of you are.
9. They tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear.
After a bottle of wine, three double vodkas and a gin and tonic, you want her to tell you it's a really good idea to text your ex.
A friend might let you do just that, but your best friend will physically remove the device from your garlic sauce covered paws, and tell you to get your sh*t together.
10. They listen to your problems over and over (and over) again.
No amount of crying or moaning will ever wear her patience (or she will, at the very least, pretend to listen to your breakup story for the thousandth time, when no one else will).
Also, when it comes to advice -- even when you ask the same questions time after time -- she will never get tired of having to reassure you how amazing you are, and how stupid your ex is for leaving you.
If you have a best friend who's been there through all the highs and lows of life, hang onto her and never let her go.