I've always been a relationship person.
In every partnership, I've had to adjust my needs and desires to fit my partner's.
But, I've also realized there are many things I rarely get the chance to enjoy once I start life together with someone else.
Here are all the things I wish someone would've told me to savor before I entered into my relationship:
1. Watch all your favorite movies whenever you feel like it.
You might not get the chance to watch them any time soon.
Do you know how frustrating it is to wait to see the new episode from your favorites series, even though it’s already on Netflix?
It's all because he isn't a fan of the show.
2. When you're at home, listen to your music loudly.
Who knows the next time you'll have the opportunity to not listen with headphones on?
3. Read your books and magazines whenever you feel like it.
Once your partner gets home, the only time left to read is right before you fall sleep.
This reduces your reading time to 10 minutes, tops.
4. Leave a total mess in the house.
You should have clothes hanging around everywhere and a pile of dirty dishes in the sink.
You might not believe me, but a partner wakes up the cleaning monster in the messiest of us.
5. Eat yogurt and cereal for breakfast and dinner for a whole week.
It’s so liberating to not have to act like an adult.
6. Skip one waxing appointment.
Oh boy, I miss this one.
Sometimes, I don’t know if I dislike this more than going to the dentist. It’s a close call.
7. Buy yourself that overpriced pair of shoes.
There’s no one to hold you accountable for it.
Whenever somebody asks me what I’m most afraid of, the first thing that comes to mind is the flat-toned question, “How did you spend $200 at this store?”
8. Go out with your colleagues.
There’s no one asking you why you came home so late. Cheers to that!
9. Keep that artsy, abstract, depressing picture hanging on your wall.
There’s nobody telling you to take it down.
10. Know yourself.
Before you get into a serious relationship, hold on to and honor the things that are important to you.
If you don’t, you’ll lose important pieces of yourself, and you'll feel lonelier than you were when you were single.
Know your values.
If friendship is important to you, make sure you have time for that in your new life.
Be aware of your needs.
If you feel happiest lying down on a beach and listening to the sound of the sea with a good cocktail and a book, make sure you don’t spend your holidays trekking every hill and mountain, just because that’s his thing.
Picture your desired future.
If you’ve always pictured yourself living in the thrilling vibes of a big city, make sure you don’t end up living in a quiet countryside.
Stay true to your dreams.
If you’ve always wanted to learn how to play an instrument, make sure you book those lessons, even if your partner thinks it’s a waste of time.
A relationship shouldn't only offer you a partner; it should give you the best possible life.