I don't think women, in general, have enough orgasms. This may seem like somewhat of an odd statement coming from a man, but it's my honest opinion.
In recent years, more light has been shed on the elusive "big O." Society is becoming more accepting, and more encouraging, of women learning about themselves and what gives them pleasure.
During the course of my studies in the psychology of sexuality, I was shocked to learn that up to 50 percent of women have trouble reaching orgasm and around 10 percent have supposedly never reached orgasm at all.
It’s believed that the latter figure is skewed lower, due to the notion that women don't want to admit they've never experienced an orgasm.
In a society where sexuality permeates music videos, advertising, and multi-billion-dollar porn and beauty industries, a solid understanding of how to pleasure yourself should be lauded, but seemingly, the opposite is the case.
Recently, I took part in some unofficial research as to how much the fairer sex actually knows about the capabilities of their own bodies.
It is widely acknowledged that women can have four different types of orgasm; yet, when I illuminate this fact, most of the time, I get a look of utter disbelief followed by, "What?!? I didn't know that!?!"
Each of the main four orgasms women can experience are different and each has differing sensations. Of course, an orgasm shouldn’t be the end goal of every sexual experience. As the old saying goes, "It’s about the journey, not the destination."
Being aware of your own pleasure, however, will never be a disadvantage.
So, aside from absolutely amazing feelings, orgasms offer a range of benefits, which warrant enjoying them on a regular basis. So, here are what the four main female types are and why you should be having — or giving — more of them:
1. Clitoral Orgasm
This is probably the best-known type of female orgasm. The clitoris is packed with nerve endings and its sole known purpose is to provide its owner with knee-juddering pleasure.
The best way to reach orgasm through the clitoris is through oral or manual stimulation. Sex itself usually doesn't lead to this one because the clitoris requires direct stimulation to reach climax.
The sensitivity of this small but powerful button can range from low to high from woman to woman, so it is advised to start slowly to figure out exactly how much pressure will get you to that big-O.
2. G-spot Orgasm
Yes, there has been debate about whether the g-spot exists, or rather, if the g-spot is a separate structure or it's the bottom of the clitoris. Either way, I know for a fact that stimulating the area (one or two inches inside, on the front wall) has a very pleasurable effect for the owner of said g-spot.
This type of orgasm can be brought about through sex or manual stimulation. The spot itself requires a much harder touch than the clitoris does in order to induce climax. Apparently, this type of orgasm has more pressure behind it than a clitoral one.
Many women report feeling a sensation of needing to pee when stimulated. This is because g-spot stimulation pushes against the urethra. But, it’s extremely unlikely you’ll pee, as this is actually just the sensation you feel just before reaching orgasm.
Upon getting that feeling, relaxing the muscles as you normally would when you pee will help push toward orgasm. This is also where the fabled female squirting is thought to happen (best to empty your bladder beforehand, though, just to make sure).
3. Blended Orgasm
This is one of the most, if not the most, powerful orgasm a woman can experience. As you can probably guess from the name, it’s the absolute bliss of having a clitoral orgasm AND a g-spot orgasm at the same time.
The two separate areas, interior and exterior, need to be stimulated simultaneously to achieve climax all at once. This one can be a bit tricky to achieve, but it’s guaranteed that you (or someone else) will have a lot of fun learning how to make it happen.
Blended orgasms have the potential to be earth shattering, so it's best to enjoy them with as few people in earshot as possible. Otherwise, they’ll know exactly how much fun you’re having...
4. Multiple Orgasms
Ah, multiple orgasms: the stuff of legends.
Contrary to popular belief, multiple orgasms do exist, and they are entirely possible to achieve if you’re able to enjoy consistent stimulation after a first climax.
These orgasms come in quick succession, one after the other, usually with mere seconds between them. They tend to come more from the clitoris, but some pressure on the g-spot is said to help, too.
Each orgasm is supposedly lesser in intensity than say, a blended or a strong clitoral orgasm, but the fact that you can have two or more within seconds of each other more than makes up for it.
It’s best to be aroused to a ridiculously high level in order to achieve these (that level where just the mere touch of another can cause your body to judder with anticipation).
So, why have all these orgasms?
To state the obvious, orgasms make you happy. During climax, your brain is flooded with feel-good chemicals, like dopamine, endorphins and oxytocin.
Dopamine is the pleasure chemical that is responsible for feelings of euphoria and arousal. Couple this with endorphins, which raise pleasure levels in your body, and you have an extremely exhilarating combination.
Oxytocin, sometimes known as the love chemical, is released through skin-on-skin contact and is responsible (in part) for feelings of affection, bonding and even love.
Secondly, in addition to all those intense feelings of pleasure, orgasms provide relief to pain and stress.
Dopamine has the added effect of focusing the brain so much on pleasure that the amygdala (the part of the brain that deals with anxiety and fear) shows little or no activity during the big O.
Oxytocin, apart from making you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, also reduces cortisol in the body (the hormone responsible for stress). So if you’re ever feeling stressed after a hard day’s work, you know what you have to do.
An interesting benefit, although technically not yet scientifically proven, is that regular orgasms keep things tight down there. During orgasm, the muscles tense and contract rhythmically, and as any gym-nut will tell you, the more you tense and contract a muscle the tighter, the stronger it gets.
AND, as an added bonus, tighter pelvic muscles lead to stronger orgasms!
Last but not least, everyone knows that sex is good exercise. The same goes for achieving orgasms, whether through fun times with someone else or solo-action, it’s a great workout.
As amazing as orgasms can be, they shouldn’t be the sole focus of your fun. If you’re only concentrating on achieving one, then it may place too much expectation on you or your partner, which will greatly inhibit your pleasure.
Arousal, first and foremost, begins in the mind. Orgasms cannot be achieved unless you or the recipient are sufficiently relaxed, so get comfortable and enjoy the journey. You never know what you might achieve.
Orgasms are highly pleasurable, offer a range of health benefits and are Mother Nature’s all-natural painkiller. Have more or give more, just to stay healthy.