We all watched Khloé Kardashian perfect the art of a revenge body. She got super fit, cut and dyed her hair and from the looks of it, improved her outlook on life.
While unfortunately I'm not besties with Khloé, I can only assume sometimes this may be a front.
Contrary to popular belief, the Kardashians are, in fact, humans. And like all humans, I'm sure they've experience their fair share of doubt in themselves and in their progress.
After going through a breakup, I decided I not only wanted to look good, but also feel good. I wanted to go after a revenge body and mindset.
And it worked. I lost weight, I cut and dyed my hair and I focused my energy on becoming a happier person.
I felt great. I was receiving compliments from friends and family and job well dones from bosses and colleagues. Not to sound clichéd, but I truly felt like I was on cloud nine.
This revenge body and entire makeover was exactly what I needed.
Unfortunately, like with most highs, there comes a time when it wears off. Whether you did something to retract your progress or you've just hit a wall, it happens.
I hit the wall, and I hit it hard.
I was in a rut, a downward spiral that could really get out of control if I let it. I was focusing all my energy on what the scale said, and I believed my work wasn't good enough.
Suddenly, I wasn't the person I thought I had become.
I was scared all the progress I made was actually just a front, and I'd finally been exposed as this self-doubting loser.
But, I had come too far to let a bad week ruin everything I had worked so hard to achieve and feel.
So, I reminded myself of these 10 things to help me get out of this rut:
1. I did this for myself and no one else.
Who cares what other people think about you? Yes, it's called a “revenge” body, but you started this for yourself. Now, you need to keep going for yourself.
2. Nothing happens overnight, but every night I've gotten closer to where I want to be.
Unfortunately, a few pounds won't magically disappear in your sleep, and you won't wake up to $1 million in your bank account. But if you focus on your goals every day, then every night, you'll know you're one day closer.
3. Stop waiting for the other shoe to drop.
If you're constantly waiting for something bad to happen, then you're going to miss out on all the good things. You're allowed to be happy.
4. The past is the past for a reason.
This isn't about getting back what you lost. This is about moving forward.
5. You've come way too far to stop now.
It's way easier to keep going than to have to start over.
6. There is no need to doubt yourself.
You look and feel amazing, so stop whining about your appearance. This is the time to love yourself.
7. Not every day is going to be good, but you'll get through it.
While it would be nice if every day were sunny and 75 degrees, that's not how the world works. Sometimes it rains, and you'll have bad days.
But, they don't last forever.
8. You should be focused on fully accepting yourself.
You've heard it 1,000 times, but it's true. It's way healthier to focus on loving yourself than to focus on trying to make someone else love you.
You're your own biggest supporter, so act like it.
9. You don't need an SO to feel good about yourself.
Compliment yourself, give yourself a pat on the back and buy yourself some damn flowers because you deserve it.
10. There might not be an actual finish line.
This is something you'll have to work at every day for the rest of your life. But when you're doing it because you love it, it will no longer feel like a chore.
We've all overcome breakups, been fired or gone through something that makes us feel like less than we really are.
And we go through these “revenge” body cycles and these spiritual awakenings, and our true selves come out. And then, we inflict self-doubt because we are scared our growth won't last.
When you feel low or you're just simply having a bad day, remember you've done this. You're becoming the person your own heart and soul knows you are.
In the very wise words of Khloé, “Life is a bitch, so learn to fuck it.”
Take your badass bod and new outlook on life, and just own it.