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Science Explains Why You Can't Stop Facebook Stalking Your Ex

by Gillian Fuller
HBO

Sometimes, it's easy to let go of your past. And sometimes, it isn't.

To determine what, if any, factors may influence a person's compulsion to Facebook stalk after a breakup, researchers at the University of Hawaii at Manoa and Ohio State University conducted a survey of men and women between the ages of 18 and 42.

Each of the participants experienced a breakup within the past year, and each was asked questions about said relationship and post-breakup thoughts and feelings.

The researchers determined those who felt the most anxiety about their previous relationships and those who were most invested in their previous relationships were most likely to dwell on their exes via Facebook.

In layman's terms: Those most hurt by the breakups were more likely to Facebook stalk.

It makes sense, of course. If you're feeling positive about the breakup, there's no need to relive the past.

But if you're feeling regret or sadness, you may be compelled to keep tabs on your former flame or rehash the high points of your relationship through Facebook moments and photos.

The researchers concluded the best way to move on from a breakup is to cut all ties: Block your ex on social media platforms (which are like “virtual scrapbooks for relationships”) and, you know, get the f*ck over it.

Time heals all wounds. Social media revenge, not so much. Remember that, friends.

Citations: Some People Are More Likely to Facebook Stalk Their Exes Study Finds (Complex)