As I’ve gotten older and my relationships have matured, a lot of things have changed about they way I view potential partners. In the past, chemistry and having fun with someone was enough to ground a relationship, because whether or not I wanted to admit it to myself, I knew deep down those relationships were not built to last. But probably the starkest difference between then and now is how much the answer to the question of “Are shared values important in relationships?” has changed for me. Now it's probably one of my biggest concerns. After all, now I look at relationships as more than just someone to have fun with, but instead, someone I want to spend my life with — and having shared values is a big part of that.
One reason I think this really matters is that, over time, we all grow and evolve, but oftentimes the values we hold don’t really alter much because they are so strongly held. They are a fundamental part of who we are, and if you can find someone you can connect with on that level, then it makes sense that your relationship would probably have a better chance of going the distance. At least, that's how I see it. But I wanted to know if that's actually the case, so I reached out to relationship experts for their takes on the importance of shared values. Here's what they had to say on the subject.