Sometimes I briefly — and I mean briefly — consider following my exes on social media. I have a moment of curiosity where I wonder, first of all, if they would follow me back, but also just what they're up to! Then I remember all the reasons why I really don’t want to reopen those doors. But choosing not to follow someone and deciding to unfollow someone after a breakup are two very different things. What if you just can't seem to quit their Insta feed? What it means if you can’t unfollow your ex, according to experts, is essentially that you're still holding on to something in the relationship.
Should you unfollow them? Trina Leckie, breakup coach and host of the breakup BOOST podcast, tells Elite Daily that cutting off all social media connections is a necessary part of a clean break. "In order to be able to move on and heal, it is best to go with the ‘out of sight, out of mind’ approach,” she advises. “A broken heart combined with constant reminders of your ex can be like self-torture. You will just prolong your suffering and make things a lot more difficult for yourself. There really is no advantage to staying connected on social media after a breakup.” Erica Gordon, millennial dating expert, founder of The Babe Report and author ofAren't You Glad You Read This?, agrees. "For the sake of your emotional well-being, you should always unfollow your ex from social media, especially if you’re not over [them]!," she tells Elite Daily
But what does it mean if you just can't unfollow them? Here's why you might be having trouble letting go, according to experts.