Remember the first time you fell in love? What did it feel like? Was it more of a "butterflies in your tummy" sort of feeling, or was it more of an overwhelming sense of comfort? Better yet, was it both? Maybe you've never been in love before and, therefore, have no idea what it feels like. Maybe you're thinking that this just might be the first time you've felt it, but you're not quite sure. I mean, how are you supposed to know what true love feels like when you've never felt it before? Well, if you're looking for a point of reference, you're in luck! A recent Reddit thread asked men to explain how they knew when they were in love.
Now, before you read these explanations, just remember that falling in love is different for everyone. What one of these guys feels like when they're in love could be totally different from what you feel like when you're in love. But give their takes a read, and hey, maybe one of these will ring true to you.
It's when someone is interested and cares.
For me it is when someone is interested in you and cares about you. That's it really.
True love feels like having Nutella.
Like eating Nutella
It's not a feeling, it's an action.
It's not just a feeling, and you shouldn't be looking for a feeling. Feelings change every day.
Instead, you should look at the actions of love. Your partner listens, supports, laughs, makes you laugh, communicates, sacrifices, spends time with you, grows with you, plans with you, trusts you, is honest with you, etc.
It's a peaceful feeling.
You simply feel peace. All bad things go away when with her / him.
You still want to hang after sex.
When you have sex and you don't want her to leave afterwards or the next morning.
It's more than a feeling.
Love is not a feeling it’s a commitment.
You feel a constant sense of support.
Always feel supportive, like you can tell them anything and not be judged, they think you are funny. I always have butterflies when I realize that she loves me, even a year in. (Longest I have made it thus far is a year and a half.)
It's when you have someone who always has your best interest at heart.
Love is knowing someone always has your back.
Like you have someone who always has your back and wants the best for you.
Home becomes a person.
When you're with that person you feel at home, regardless of where you are
You're always excited to hang with them.
Have you ever had a friend that you're always excited to hang out with? Somebody that you always have a great time with?
It's kinda like that, except you put your dick in it.
It's an overwhelming sense of comfort.
It's kind of a nebulous answer so I'll do the best I can.
You should feel safe and secure. You should feel like you can tell your partner anything and vice versa. You shouldn't be afraid of talking or communication. You should feel comforted, like he or she has accepted you for who you are and is perfectly OK with that.
I once told my wife (then girlfriend) that she was like sitting in front of the fireplace under a big warm blanket with a hot cup of cocoa while it's snowing and cold outside. So I guess that's what it's like.
If you know, you know.
When you no longer need to ask that question
I know the whole "when you know, you know" approach is always the worst to hear, but I do think that last user has a point here. When you're truly in love, it's hard to miss it.
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